My mother used to say there are two things we as adults have to determine while living, raising a family or being a married couple or in a relationship. She would say we have to determine what is our wants, which could be things like cloths, shoes,cars or jewelry. And we also have to determine our needs, which could be a roof over your head, a car for transportation, a job to pay the bills, insurance just in case of bad health or death and money in a savings account when times get ruff. She would say people should not spend their money unnecessarily or waste it on materiel things , especially if the bills are due or need to be paid. Her famous saying is ,"Take care of home first before you do anything in the streets or take care of yourself before you take care of anyone else". She stressed how important it was to take care me first before anyone else. I could hear my mother in my ear now, saying love yourself and take care of yourself first. Before I could ask her to explain herself, she went onto say, no man or woman could possibly love someone or care for someone if they do not love or care for themselves. She would say you may want to love and you may want to take care of them. But what you need to do is love yourself first and then take care of your own needs first. That way you will be happy, healthy and able to love someone the right way. Without you looking out for your wants or needs it will cause confusion in your life and can lead to an unhealthy relationship. She went on to say even when you pray, you first thank God for your life and breath. She also said every person should want and need their own personal relationship with our Father in Heaven and with his son Jesus Christ. Because when judgment day comes, all will be judged individually. But the statement I really loved and should have paid attention to as a child, then carry it into my adult life. Is when she would say most relationships or marriages fail not because of the other person, but because one half of the party did not determine their wants or needs before the relationship or marriage began. Each need to determine what realistic wants or needs before the marriage or relationship starts. Your spouse should know your wants, needs or desires before the relationship even starts,that way it will be fair and there will not be any false expectations. With anything in life, people should always determine what they really want or need out of it. When shopping for a car, a home, a job, a church or even a mate or spouse. Everyone should first determine their wants or needs. Because in the end its not what you want that determines your happiness or success . If your needs are met then you will fill completed. What you want can come latter, but what you need in always and forever more today.So before you start anything consult our Father in Heaven and ask him to provide for your needs. If you are faithful, trust worthy and true, God our Father in Heaven will bless you with the desires of your heart, then you will have what you want or need with Gods blessing.
Have a blessed evening,
John 4:20 If someone says, "I love God," and hates his brother, he is a liar; for the one who does not love his brother whom he has seen, cannot love God whom he has not seen.