Friday, August 12, 2011

Our Time

Life is real funny and has it ways of changing most of our lives either for the best or for the worse. But even though life present us with many changes there will always be hope . Because God our Father in Heaven is always there to bless us each and everyday. Everyday, most of us are either working, trying to raise our children and paying those monthly bills. Sometimes it gets hard because, it becomes a routine and life becomes boring. Some may ask themselves these question's," Why did God create us"? Why does he love us so much? Those questions can only be answered by God himself. Being that our time here on Earth is so limited and we will all make many mistakes. Its makes one wonder why God still puts up with us(Because of our lack of respect or faith in him). Most of us do not really realize, how powerful or Father in Heaven really is. If we use some common sense then we would realize that God has all power in his hands and that he is in control or still perform miracles' . From looking at the news you can see that God still has and effect on the world we live in. He has the power to make a rich man poor and in the very next day make a poor man rich. He has the power to change the weather despite the seasons, he makes what we say impossible , possible and create miracles' out of things we wouldn't think possible. That is why we all should heed Gods warnings, because he will not lead any of us blind or astray . Before we do or get into anything that may cost us time or our life, God will always warn you and I of the consequences. Like my father has always said for every action, there is an equal reaction. He would also say there is a consequence for every action, for the good and the bad. An example of this is; when you get married, have children or even get a job, there is a consequence for these actions, because that's where the real the work begins. Getting married, having children and even getting a job is the easy part, but keeping your husband or wife, raising your children properly and keeping, then advancing at your career is the hard part. Because with the happiness, of getting all these things, sorrow, trials, tribulations and challenges will follow. The devil will do anything to destroy the good in peoples lives. Like my father would say," This is where the strong survives, the weak fail, and this is where the cream rises to the top". Having survived all of these challenges', will tell who has the strength , the will and the faith of God to have a successful marriages that last a lifetime; Who has the wisdom and faith to raise children into productive and respectful men and women; Who has the courage, faith, trust, knowledge and love of God to have a successful career. If we all value our time, our precious time or moments on Earth, then we all would be wise to heed Gods words or warnings. For he will not lead any of his children blind and if we have trust in him, then have faith, our time on Earth will be well spent. If we all remain patient, and let God be the true head of our life, then anything we get into will become a success and all who do so will be blessed. All we have to do, is trust him, that no matter the problems we may face or what may trouble our heart, not too worry we may face, trails or tribulations. As a believer we must know that our Father in Heaven has it all under control. God has all power in his hand and his plan for us is perfect. Just pray that your time, our time here on Earth will be both a blessing and a success. Look for his advice, by praying, then reading the bible and going to church where you can be spiritually fed. Doing those things will help improve your life and give you a better understanding on what God expects from you . It doesn't matter what situation you may face because God can guide you . Just because you have failed many times and lost many battles in your life, does not mean its over. Because with God in your life you will win the war and turn your failures into a success. Why does God love us so much? We its because we all were created in his image and we were meant to rule over all his creations. He values successful marriages and hates divorced. He loves patient and humble parents that raise productive citizens and he enjoys our successes ,because it gives him glory, as we have been blessed. If we value our time , then we need to live it wisely, by first confiding in God and remain faithful to his words. Then our time here will both a blessing to us, but will also lift a curse off our children for future generations' to come.
Have a blessed day,

Proverbs 4:22 for they are life to those who find them and health to one's whole body.

Proverbs 9:6 Leave your simple ways and you will live; walk in the way of insight."

Proverbs 12:2 Good people obtain favor from the LORD, but he condemns those who devise wicked schemes

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Sticks Or Stones

As I think back on my child hood memories, I often think back on the games we played as children. Some of the games we played were innocent , but while others at times could be very mean. The games we played that were mean, were the ones when we talked about our parents or when we talked about our other classmates or friends. At that time it was called playing the dozen. I laugh at it now, but growing up in my time you had to have some very tuff skin,because we would talk about each others mothers , fathers and would talk about each other so bad that we would often argue or fight. But back then talking about each other or poking fun at each other was just a game and we really didn't mean any harm. These are some of the words we would say to each other if we couldn't come up with something clever to blow back or express ourselves ." Sticks or stones may break my bones, but your words could never hurt me". Back then it was all fun, but once my mother found out about it, my siblings and I were severely punished. She would say Chuck! Stop being so mean to your sisters' and brothers! If you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all! Like children always do, we often got each other in trouble. We would act like we were crying or hurt just to get the other one punished. But now that I am grown up, I began to realize in the outside word that you can't play the games children play and people take what you say seriously. Even when I am angry I take time to think about what I am going to say before I say it. Like my father would always say, "Think son before you react. Because once you said something or expressed yourself, it could never be undone. After all son its been said that calmer heads prevail. I had to learn the hard way that just because someone says something mean to you or says something that may be untrue and lie. That if a person act out their feelings while being angry no one wins, but the devil.

In the world we live in there is so much, anger, depression. stress and suffering ,that is when most of us have been guilty of saying some very harsh words. Words spoken out of anger can leave a lasting impression, that could hurt feelings, cause mental stress; break up friendships, relationships and marriages. These words we speak when feeling all these emotions are not very thought out and are said when we are not thinking correctly or with a sound mind. After the damage has been done and we realize what we have done, then most of us try to make up for ,it by asking for forgiveness, saying we are sorry or even trying to explain ,why those harmful words were spoken. But we all must realize is that once you say something, you could never take it back and the power of a spoken word can either help someone or they can harm someone. That why we all have to be very careful before we speak, because some people can't handle that type of language emotionally .Also what all of us must realize is that no one could know what's going on in another persons home. What I mean by this is, they could be having a hard time with their mother,father, children, husband or wife. They could also be behind on their bills or out of work. These are just some of the things that stress people out everyday, that can cause many to snap, then cause them to do things they wouldn't ordinary do. If you find yourself feeling angry, depressed or stressed out, take a step back and think about it, before you open your mouth. Ask God for the proper words to get your point across and say something useful, instead of something you may have to apologize for latter or feel guilty. Because its not what you say, its how you say it, that makes a big difference when you are trying to get your point across.
For those with anger issues I offer this prayer ", God I am angry, I need your strength and wisdom, so  that I can say something constructive and positive to fix this situation". I know Lord with your wisdom you can and will help me resolve this issue, in a christian way '. So guide me oh Lord, instruct me in your  ways , so that this conversation will be a blessing for the both of us and you will get the glory in Jesus name . Amen.
Have a blessed week,
Proverbs 18:21
The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Matthew 12:36
But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken.

Monday, August 8, 2011

Misery Loves Company

You every wonder why some people seem to be only happy when you are down and out or depressed? They seem to only want to be around you when you are not happy or when you have no one good in you life(Like a spouse or a mate). The more successful you become , the more unhappy, envious or jealous they become. People seem to really hate it when your life starts to improve and when you start becoming successful.(That is what I called being blessed or when you have favor from God). There is a lot of jealousy and envy going around in the world. There are also people who hate it when you are happy and can not stand it if you find yourself a good man or a good woman, even if they already have one.(That's because they are unhappy with their spouses or mates) There are even some people in your own  family that have doubts about your dreams and will say anything to keep you from achieving it. Instead of being there to support your dreams, they are there to tear it down. These people will make statements like he or she is no good for you or they may say you are not good enough to have a man or a woman like that. Then there are other statements like how do you know if you can make it in that city, state or country, you have a hard enough time making it here? Where your family members and friends should be positive ,they are negative and it makes you wonder why do the hate me for trying to be a success? Why do people say negative things and do their best to wreak your dreams, hopes or desires? Why do people make it their business to break up happy marriages or  relationships? Why do people spread rumors or lies and bring up your past life in order to wreak your future ? Well the answer to all those questions, is because misery loves company and because some people are only happy, if you are  unhappy. Some of these people have miserable lives and therefore they feel left out . They feel if anyone around them gets a blessing from God, that God will not bless them too. Instead of seeking God and asking him for a blessing or direction, they instead take the way of the Devil or the world , then become negative and hate. But it will only back fire if you are a man or woman of God, because what God has for you is for you. No man or woman can keep you from achieving  or reaching your goals or keep you from  being happy. If you first put your trust, faith and belief only in  him. Because Gods plan for you and I ,is perfect, if we acknowledge him and have faith, then all of our dreams or  desires will come to past. So the next time someone invites misery into your life, say to them,"  devil you are a liar! What God has for me is for me and I shall receive the blessings that God has for me, in Jesus name!
Have a blessed night,
Psalm 138:7 Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life; you stretch out your hand against the anger of my foes, with your right hand you save me.

Friday, August 5, 2011


If you lived long enough you and have been involved in a relationship or marriage there is a good chance you  have been hurt, lied too, deceived, cheated on, disappointed, abandon, abused and have had your heart broken. What most of us do after we have been hurt , is  put up walls , because we are afraid of being hurt. Most of us understand that living in this world by ourselves, is a very lonely thing to do. But out of the fear of starting over with someone new , we tend to put ourselves in our own trap by thinking its okay to be alone. Even some of us very strong Christian's realize that having God in our lives is just a part of living and he never intended on us being alone. That's why when he created Adam, very soon after that he created Eve. In other scriptures he also says that he will never leave us, which one can take from that is that he always intended on his creations having a loving relationship with him and others. But, what most of us do after a bad relationship or divorce, we put up walls. Most of us walk around with our hearts in a box, afraid to let anyone in , because of the fear of being hurt. Then some of us fall for the gossip and believe the rumors, then believe statements like; All men are alike and there are no good men; All the good men or either married or in jail; Most women are gold diggers; All a woman really wants is a man with money or a man that drives a nice car; Women are looking for the next meal ticket and can not be trusted; Women really do not want a good man and if they had one the would not know what to do with one; All men are dogs and most men only want sex. These are just some of the rumors that are out there that keep people from moving on with their lives after being hurt. There is so much negativity out there it can scare even the strongest person. It seems like everyone out there has forgotten one main fact, that God says everything and everyone he has created is good. God did not stop creating good people or good things and he certainly did not stop with you. Why would I make this statement? Well most people feel the only good people left is themselves. To me that sounds so funny and it is not very  smart. Its that attitude that keeps people from finding their soul mate or keep them from being blessed.  As soon as they realize that fact then they can move on, then find Misses Right or Mister Right.
If you are able to tear down the walls that divide you and your potential spouse, then you will be able to love again. But before trying to start a new relationship everyone needs to deal with their issues of their past. Ask God to remove those fears and to ask him for the strength to believe his word that for every man there is a good woman. If you put God at the head of your life then you will realize that he will provide for you and will not lead you wrong. He will give you what you seek a good man or woman that you can love, trust and someone that will never leave you. But before you can do that you have to ask God to remove or tear down those walls of fear, hurt, pain, tears and mistrust. Sometimes when we pray, God answers it, then bless us with something good  or someone wonderful. But as humans we even question, if its good for us or if that blessing or good thing comes from God. The question God has for you is, Do you have faith in him or do you believe that  he answer prayers or keeps his promises? Even though you may feel unworthy of your blessings, God never stopped loving you and he still answers prayers. Life can be hard sometimes because we, allow ourselves to become stuck in situations that may last years or even a lifetime. These situations can be working at a job that's stressful, with no opportunity to advance or being in a very bad relationship that has no future or blessing from God. In these cases most turn to family or friends. But the only true way to be free of yourself from  burdens or problems is by letting go and allowing God enter in your life. Free yourself and your life by trusting God ,who has power to heal, then start your life all over again. Trust God with your future and break yourself out of your self imposed prison. Open up your box and free your heart, then yourself to love and trust again. Even though nothing is too hard for our Father in Heaven, remember this. God will not bless a person with a close mind or someone with a heart that refuses to love or forgive. So  please tear down your Walls! Because God our Father in Heaven has a bright future for you to enjoy!
Have a blessed Wednesday,
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight.

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

You Never Miss Your Water

I found its very easy to think about my past  failures and hard to acknowledge or remember my success. As I have grown older I sometimes reflect or focusing  on the negative aspects of my life and forgetting about the positive parts. I think its only human to think about the bad and easy to forget the good. That is in a way human beings biggest down falls, is that we tend to remember or hold on to bad memories. What I have learned from both my mother and father is life can't be learned or judged in parts, but only as a whole. As my father would put it or say, "Son never read or hear half of the story be patient , then see it through". This brings me back to my past relationship memories which I can say, most of them bad and some of them good. But as life would have it most of the time I tend to think about the negative ones or talk about the bad ones. But now that I have matured I wonder to myself about the good ones or the good relationships. We all have had them ( a good man or a good woman)if we really admit it too ourselves, but for some strange reason it didn't work out. I know in my life I have had one or two women in my life that were truly good too me and good for me. But if I am honest with myself I must admit that the timing was all wrong. As I think back on those two relationships , I remember how those particular two people really fit me and seemed perfect for me. I  young , immature, stupid or as my mother would say , "Wet behind the ears". At the time I didn't realize how blessed I was to be in a company of a good woman. I think as men, when we think back on our past mistakes, we often try to make up for it when we get older or wiser. But as fate would have it when you try being good to a bad or unappreciative woman it will never work out. If you are reading this and happen to be a woman , you might ask me what made those two women so special or unique? Well what made those women unique from all the others  that I have dated (In my past as well as the present) were that they were the type of woman that not only looked out for you , but also had your best interest in mind and they really cared. In today's world that is a very rare commodity, because most men and women are selfish therefore they only thought about themselves. Those two women were very unselfish, caring, loving, kind , considerate and God fearing. Out of the two there is one I will never forget, because she was uniquely special. Just in case she happens to be reading my journal, I give a false name, so I can give you the real reason I still feel this way her to this very day.
From the very first day I met her I knew something was different about her . She was beautiful, well kept, dressed nice, smelled good, classy and  had a glow that it will be hard for me to explain, on paper, but I'll do my best to give her justice. She had the look that said I could take her home to my mother and seeing her gave me the thought that this woman could be my future wife.(If you are a man then you would understand where I am coming from) To the ladies that are reading this in every mans eyes there is a certain woman that fits him or makes him feel that she is the one for him. All men have certain images or looks in that they perceive are wife material. That is why I believe in my heart that God created for each man a woman and each woman is a mans rib or help mate. But other than the normal stuff that men look for when seeking a mate this woman had that special something I would never forget. What was this special thing or gift that she possessed ? Well she had the ability to look inside me or as my late grandmother would say, she could look into my soul. The reason why I felt this way about her, was because at the time I had a very strained relationship with my parents. Crystal and I were only dating for four months, but were getting real close. One day after work she asked me when was I going to visit my parents. I responded to her by saying never! They don't care if I live or die so why should I visit them? Then she looked at me with those beautiful eyes of hers and said," Because they are a part of you and besides that you are missing something I could never give you. I gave Crystal a very puzzled look and said, " What are you talking about Crystal? Then she explained that every man or every woman has a special link to their parents, even those that has foster parents. She went on to say by your blood you will always be linked to your parents and just because you have some unpleasant feelings for them you should never let that get in the way of being around your family. Even after hearing her explain to me why family was so important, I remain stubborn and refused to go. But Crystal refused to give up, she wrapped her arms and legs around me, then said I will not let you go until you let go of your anger and besides if you can't love your family, how is it possible to love me? As I think back on those moments, I realized that she was right. I gave in, then went and visited my parents. Thanks too her I have a relationship with my parents and I owe it all to her. Its just too bad that when she met me that I wasn't mature and not ready to settle down with a good woman. But as the old saying goes, You never miss your water until your well runs dry. Even to this day I have never met or even seen a woman that comes close to Crystal. To those who are blessed enough to read my true life story, if God has blessed you with the opportunity to be in the company of a good man or woman , hold on to them and never let go. Because if you let them go, you will never miss your water until your well runs dry.
May God bless you always,
Proverbs 31:10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.

Monday, August 1, 2011

Wolves In Sheep Clothing

Have you ever been in a relationship that it doesn't  matter how hard you tried or what you did  it just didn't work out? Are you just tired of all the arguing , fussing and complaining? Doesn't it , just break your heart when you put so much time or effort in the relationship or marriage and it seems destine to fail? What I have found out from dating or even in marriage that some people, really don't appreciate a good thing or a good person. There are just some people in the word that are just happy with people that are no good or evil. As sad as this may sound, some men or woman will never be good for anyone because they are selfish and evil.
 As I write this journal it brings back some painful memories, heartache's of my past and failures that I didn't want to relive again. But as my Pastor once preached in church one Sunday , "In order to heal , you must in turn heal others". I figured though my pain, I can save others from the same misfortune's or mistakes of my past. Experiencing both bad and the good has taught me a lot about myself . It has also showed me through those bad times when a person is not good for me and what to avoid, if I  happen to meet that same type of person in the future. It brings back memories of the  talks I had with both my mother and father. When they would used to say, "Son, just because she looks good does not mean she is good for you". They would go on to say get to know her before you get involved with any woman  and learn about their family. Find out if she has   the same values or beliefs as you do. See if she has the same goals or see if  she loves children or  family . Then  make sure above anything else that she has God in her life. Because a person with out our Lord in Savior in their life is lost and confused.  They can then, will only cause you problems and can be no good for you. They would also say, just because a person seems religious or acts religious does not mean they are religious. My mom used to always make me laugh when she would say some of the women or men in the church are worse than the men or women in the streets so be careful. She would go on to say baby , some men or women in the world  are like wolves in sheep clothing. They might appear too be good people, but in the end you will find they are pure evil.  Boy was she right! Through out  my many experiences I have seen or been involved with  women ,who seemed to be good women or women of God and then they  turn out to be worse than the women of the world.
 My mother or father would finish their teaching and preparing me for the future with these statements that I'll never forget. They would say, "Learn a persons heart, because its will reveal who they really are. "Or they would say , Its  not what's on the outside that makes them real men or women its what they possess on the inside that counts" . My mother would say," Find someone who's beauty shines on the  inside as well on outside .Find yourself someone who you can love in peace and free of drama or stress. Then when you do  son, you then  have found yourself a God fearing woman and that good thing that the Bible talks about. When you find this woman you will find that she is not only a good person , but also good for you. But if you decide to go the other route and date or marry someone just because of  looks, money, lust or fame. Then you will find not only are they no good for you, but also that you both will end up being no good for each other. So take my advice take time to learn about the person you are thinking about getting involved with and look before you leap. Do yourself a  favor save yourself from all the, heartaches, pain or aggravation. Pray then ask God for help, before you make serious mistake. Remember we did not raise no fools and God does not lead his people blind. So trust him with all of your major decisions.
 If you are blessed enough to be reading this journal  heed  both my mothers and fathers advice. Because it will save you from being hurt and also keep you from being disappointed. Sometimes, we run back to a place,or to  someone that we know we should have turn our backs on. When God delivers us out of bondage, frees us from pain, stress or a place where we didn't prosper or wasn't happy, and gives us a new place, a new  direction  or a new person to love. We should embrace it and never look back. Looking back or going back to something or someone that we know is bad for us, is  unhealthy  to be around or unworthy of our time , can cause our own destruction. Honor God by moving on with your life and embracing something new, because the real blessing is being free. After all you prayed and asked to be free. God has kept his promise too you and so should you .
Good night and be blessed in Jesus name,

P.S. Of the many studies done around the world stress happens to be the worlds most lethal killer. That's right more lethal than AIDS, cancer, drugs and even murder. So please do yourself a favor rid yourself of any drama , stress or pain. People that play games or play with your emotions shouldn't have any place in your life. Life without peace, is a life not worth living at all.
 Corinthians 2:14 But a natural man does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually appraised.

Its Your Life‏

If you live long enough you will find that is very easy to get confused or persuaded by other peoples opinions. If you are truthful or even if you take the time to think about it, you will realise that some of our biggest mistakes were made because we either listen or were persuaded by other peoples opinions. Think about where would you be if you just listen to your heart and valued your own opinions or thoughts . But my grandmother has an old saying that still applies today," When in doubt only trust God".  For only he knows your beginnings or your endings. As I think about this past statement, I often reflect on my own past mistakes and wonder what would my life be like if I just listen to my own heart or if I just took more chances. My mother what say this statement that I never paid attention to," You will never know how it may turn out unless you give it a try". Now that I am older now I know what she meant. If I knew what I know now I would have taken more risk or chances. I would have went after more of my dreams and maybe accomplished more or maybe I would be married to that beautiful woman, that some said was no good or good enough for me. After all just like my father would tell me," Son its your life and its up too you to live it the way you want too". But as a young adult I was either scared or afraid to take risks, so I valued other peoples opinions, instead of going after my dreams. It makes me think of something that both my mother and father used to tell me, that I am now passing on to you who read this." Surround yourself around successful or positive people  or around people who will push you and help you reach your full potential. She would go on to say, that its easy to find people that are judgmental or people with negative thinking, because misery loves company. So son if you happen fall in love or get some new friends ,make sure they are the type that believe in you or have faith in you. Surround yourself around some God fearing people that love you just like your father and I.  After I think about my life I realise that I have been blessed and God has always been there for me. If I just trusted him more an practice a little bit more faith then there is no telling where I would be today. If you happen to be reading this I want you to pay attention to these last few words. With any decision always consult or trust God. Pray without fail or with an sincere heart and God will guide you into the right direction. Never let fear or doubt influence your decisions. When taking advice always remember or examine who you are getting it from. If they happen to be doing worse than yourself, its a good chance that they are not the ones you should be getting advice from. But still do not ignore it, because God works in mysterious ways and can use anyone to get his point across. Always trust your heart and go with your feelings, because you do not want to live your life with regrets. So take risks, enjoy your life and do not pass on opportunities, even when it comes to love. Its your life and you should live it to the fullest. If you are living your life the way someone else or the way your parents want you to live, take your life back because its yours. And if all of this sounds confusing to you and you need some direction. When in doubt only trust God. Always remember this during all the days of your life God removes what man call obstacles' and makes the impossible possible. So never loose faith and believe you can. After all it is YOUR LIFE.
Be blessed,

Hebrews 10:22 let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water