Thursday, September 15, 2011

Over Come It All

 I have been asked this very truthful question by a friend of mine, How do I get over hurt feelings , emotions' or pain ? She would say, how can I go on when I feel so much pain? This particular friend of mine  had a son, that was always in trouble. He stole from her, wreaked her cars, destroyed certain parts of her home, was on drugs, was in trouble with the law and even had the nerves to abuse his own mother. She would say to me , "Charles I have been through so much with this child! He has stolen my life and I hate him"! She had tears in her eyes and from her appearance alone I knew that she was tired .Then she went on to say Charles I am so tired of being lied too, hurt and deceived. Tell me where do I get the strength to over come it all?  After she got through telling me about her pain and troubles, I had to think of a way to properly answer her question. A lot of us who have been , wronged, hurt, lied too, deceived or  abused , don't realize that if we don't deal with our emotional issues of our past or present , then its impossible to progress , reach our full potential or even function in the outside world. As a man growing in the Lord I had to realize this  fact for myself. I  to had deal with some emotional issues of my own. I think back as a child when I was abused by both of my parents, I think about how much I hated them. From their abuse I harbored  a lot of pain and hate. I resented my parents and didn't want anything to do with them. I felt like the black sheep of the family, because nothing I did was right in their eyes. Therefore when I became an adult, I stayed away from them. But what I didn't realize is that I was only hurting myself, because I didn't allow myself to heal and forgive them. What  I didn't realize that I wasn't a perfect child and it was hard back then raising six children. Now it didn't excuse their abuse, but it did make me realize the pressure both of my parents were under raising six children all with different  personalities and different problems .
 Now that I am raising my own children I under stand the pressure's of being a parent. Understanding all of this made me realize something. If I couldn't over come my past hurt or demons, then  I couldn't or wouldn't  become successful or happy in life. Why you may ask? Well the answer to that is quite simple, It takes a lot of entergy to hate. Believe this or not hating someone is not healthy for your soul and its stressful. Also hating someone can be a huge distraction in your life, because hating someone takes a lot of time and energy. You have to work hard to hate and evil thoughts, bring criminal or evil thoughts and the devil is always in the mist of hate. Someone who hates, despises and  always  plots things to hurt the people they hate. But back to the main question, How do you or I get over hurt feelings, emotions or pain? The easy answer if by turning them over to God. Now some may read this and say its not that easy. Well to those people I would say, you are right its not that simple. First you have ask God to forgiveness and then you have learn how to forgive yourself. A lot of us punish ourselves when we have been lied to hurt or deceived. The reason for this is because some of us believe the reasons we became victims is because of our own weakness and that's simply not true. What we must realize is life, is only a test and the more we learn, the better we become. So stop stressing and stop living in the past. Live for today, because tomorrow is not promised. If you do these things with the grace of our Father in Heaven you shall and will over come it all.
Have a blessed evening,
Psalm 79:9 Help us, O God our Savior, for the glory of your name; deliver us and forgive our sins for your name's sake.