Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Never Stop Living

 Has your life gotten so busy that now you have become easily distracted and you always seem too loose your way? Are you looking for a way to stay focused, determined or driven to succeed ? Each of us have busy schedules, raising our children or taking care of our families, working long hours at our jobs and cooking or cleaning our homes. After doing these things daily , its very easy to loose ourselves or our focus. Most of us forget one very important fact, If we don't take care of ourselves, then there is no way we will be able to care for others. What most of us don't realize is when we loose focus, we also loose time and if we aren't careful most will be to old to do or achieve our goals or dreams. Some may ask this question, "How do I remain focused or how do I get my life back on track? Well to those who are blessed enough to read this, always remember that you only have one life on Earth to live and even though you may now have children or a new spouse. Your life here has not stopped and it has more meaning than being a parent ,  husband or wife. Your dreams , your desires still count and your life still has a purpose. Your dreams as children can still be achieved and your dreams still has the potential to become reality. Never forget who you are and do not become so lost that you forget that your life has a purpose.

 But to answer one main question we all should ask ourselves daily, How do I remain focused or how do I get my life back on track? My answer to that question is too refocus yourself, by  first focusing on God. Pray daily , then ask our Father in Heaven to help you regain your focus. There are two old saying's I always used too  hear in church," There is nothing to hard for God and through God all things are possible with faith". But you first you have to have faith, because without it you have nothing. So practice a little faith, by trusting then believing in God and also by knowing that God purpose for yourself, has not been revealed yet. There is an old saying in my family , In life you can waste many things( food or money) but time is too valuable to waste. In other words take advantage of every opportunity, live your life to the fullest  and never take anything for granted. Open up your mind and  learn something new. For what may seem useless today , can save your life or benefit it tomorrow. So what ever you decide to do with your life , always remember this not matter what never quit , never stop learning , always go after your dreams and always live your life for the glory of the Lord. Never Stop Living!
May God bless you always,
 Luke 12:23 The life is more than food, and the body is more than clothing.

Friday, October 21, 2011

The Role Of A Man Or Woman

A friend of mine was having problems with both her husband and her son. She couldn't get any of them to go to work or to do anything around the house. Being that I am curious by nature I asked her did she spoil the  men in her life. She answered me with a big smile by saying, that she was the bread winner, she cooked, cleaned and provided for all their needs. She bragged about how much she achieved and on how she didn't really, at that time need a man to support her or help take care of her needs. But now after all those years of being the  both  the provider and protector of the family, she was  now tired. Therefore, wanted her men in her life to take on the load. She said to me Charles, I am tired but I can't get my men too help me. Tell me what can I do to get  my men too  act like men? To the women that are blessed enough to read this I have some sound advice. Treat your men like children and they will in turn act like children. But if you treat them like men then they will be men. In short empower your man or the men in your life. What do I mean by empower? Well by nature men were created by God to be strong. Men for thousand of years were both providers and protectors of the family. Now that there is a new age and women can now fend, protect and provide for themselves .Now what was once the staple of the man has been taken away, by the advances of women. In some cases that has weakened the man, because now  some men don't feel needed  or wanted  and  now some have  become dependent. For those who have husbands or sons, you may ask how do I reverse the cycle and make them act like men? The easy answer is to tell them you need them and let them become an active part of your life. This advice is even for the women who happen to make more money than their husbands. A man feels real good when he is empowered or needed. It gives a man confidence to know that his family or spouse needs him, so provide him a role that you both can feel comfortable with. This  reminds me of something my late grandmother would always say," Oh how good it feels  to be both needed or wanted". When a man looses his confidence, he in facts looses his soul. Its like a caged Lion that was once in the wild a great hunter. But now that you have caged him  you took away his ability to hunt and now he has becomes helpless. Men  since the beginning of time were made to be the head of the household and were created to be strong. If you take away a mans strength then he becomes a shell of a man and something else. That is not what God meant or intended when he created man. I know some women that may read this may take issue with what I just wrote. Some of you may say time has changed and its the time of the woman. My question to those who may question my thoughts is, "Do you really believe God is satisfied with the reverse roles of the man or the woman of today"? In the beginning of time God very first creation besides the animals was man and he created woman for man  to be one . Malachi 2:15 Has not [the LORD] made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth.  Gods word is Gods word and who has the right to question his wisdom? After all God did create both the man and the woman. Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. Both the man and the woman have their roles when it comes to a relationship or family. Just because one happens to make more than the other doesn't mean those roles should change or be in reverse.
Have a blessed day,

Friday, October 7, 2011

Take God With You

Today a friend of mine asked me this question, Charles how can I deal with my fall? When she asked me this question she caught me by surprise and I asked her what did she mean by this statement? Then she proceeded  to tell me about her fall from grace. To further explain this, my friend at one point of her life had a high position at her job and got laid off. Now her income and her way of life has changed. Because of it, her ability to pay or buy the things she needed to survive has become limited. She began to cry, then say Charles I have lost my way! My confidence, my swagger and my ability to cope is now gone away. Then I looked at her and said, you are still relevant in Gods eyes and this is only a test. To those that are blessed enough to read this, I have some advice. While we are blessed enough to live here on Earth , all of us will have our own  share of trials and tribulations. There will be many storms or dangers to face along the way.  But what we do or how we handle those situations, will determine what type of men or women we will be. My father had a famous saying,which happens to be a song by Isaac Hayes's, (Only The strong survive) .Which in Gods words, if you draw strength form the one that has created all things, then great things will happen. If you  happen to fall from grace or from the  top of the mountain, get back up, then climb it again. For if you had it once you can and shall have it again. But this time on your climb back up the mountain take something with you that you didn't have with you  before. What you may ask? Well next time you decided to make a climb or take a chance with your life, don't forget about God. Make him the reason for your climb and when you reach the top thank him for your success. Because without God your rise to the top will be short lived, but with him it will last a life time. So take God with you everyday or every where you go and never forget where you get your blessings.  Always remember to live your life to please God and not man.  Because if you live your life to please man or others your trip to the top will be short lived.
Have a blessed day,
Psalm 94:14 For the LORD will not reject his people; he will never forsake his inheritance.
Psalm 143:7 Answer me quickly, O LORD; my spirit fails. Do not hide your face from me or I will be like those who go down to the pit.