Wednesday, June 29, 2011

A Fathers Love

When I first became a father at the very young age of twenty-one, I never really understood what it meant to be a father. At that time my daughter was born, I was just learning for myself what it took to become a man. I was going to college, working two jobs, clubbing and doing what most twenty-one year old do at that age. I remember getting that phone call from my current girl friend that I was going to become a father. At first I didn't know how to take the news of becoming a father. I thought wow, I am too young to be a father. My other thought was how am I going to be able to take care of a baby, when I am having a hard time taking care of myself? Do we get married, even though we really don't have a sound relationship?Then I has this thought, what did I get myself into? Why didn't I wear protection? That was a lot to take in for a young man just trying to find himself. I can remember my fathers words when he heard the news, he would say," Chuck, you laid down with that woman and acted like an adult, now its time to grow up and be one.

 Any man that has heard those words for the very first time would be scared. I must admit I was scared, confused and very unprepared. Thank God for two very loving parents  who must have knew that I wasn't prepared to be a father and sure wasn't prepared to be a parent. It took me some time to realize that there is a big difference between a father or a mother and a single parent. After some years pass by I was blessed with another child( A baby boy). God fixed it that I would be present when he was born. I got to witness child birth and all I can say what an experience. It was amazing, to see something so beautiful being born. To any man who may read this, if you happen to have a woman that is carrying your child, please witness the birth. I did and it changed my life! I knew from that moment on that I wanted to be more involved in my children's lives. I was determined to be involved and I wanted my children to know who their father was. So I went out bought my sons crib, then went to the department store , then bought him clothes, bottles and made one room in my apartment a room just for him. I loved my baby boy and felt that nothing would ever come between us.

 At the time of my sons birth his mother and I were not a couple. But I assured her that I would do my job as a father and help raise our son. I thought his mother and I had a sound agreement, but as you know nothing happens as planned. She fought me every step of the way. She denied me visits and she only wanted  me to see our son, when she received support for our child. Our child became a tool she would use only to get money and when she received the money, it wasn't spent on our son. At times I was both furious and helpless at the same time. Here I was a father that wanted to be apart of my child's life, but because we weren't involved, she used him to her advantage. Living like this was a living hell. I found myself praying and asking God for help. As fate would have it I ended up years later having custody of my child.  My prayers were answered because I soon found out that I was not only am I a father, but also a single parent. I never knew what those words meant until my own son explained it too me today. He said these words today that made think and proud at the same time. He said ,"I always knew that you were my Father, because my mother told me so". But when I began to live with you then you became my parent. A father only is only a father because he provided the necessary ingredients to make a baby. But a real parent raises the child and becomes responsible for it. You dad are my father and my parent.

 Those words that my son expressed to me made me proud to be a father. Has raising my son alone been easy? No, as a matter of fact I was told that I couldn't do it and I was also told that I would make a terrible parent. But I was determined to raise him and get him ready for the outside world. Now he is making good grades, healthy and a very respectable kid. One day with Gods blessings he will turn into a God Fearing man. I learn while raising my son, times may be difficult, but with God in the mist all things are possible. My experience raising my son has been a blessing. It has helped me grow as a man and it also helped me to respect the mothers of the world that raise children by themselves without the help of their fathers. Being a parent I learned a lot about myself. I learned love is not just buying something for someone, love is also caring about another person needs. Sometimes your child just needs to know that you will be there for them, through their failures and as well as their success. All you have to do while raising your children, is to be both positive and strong,encourage them to be what ever they want to be and always tell them that with God in their lives all things are possible to achieve.To all the mothers and fathers in the world, be more than mothers or fathers,be parents and show your child  or children real love. Also to the mothers of the world, that don't allow the fathers visitation, please do not allow the world or the devil to come between this very important union. Every child needs their fathers as well as their mothers. Yes a mothers love is precious, but a fathers love will stay with a child for a lifetime. For God our Father In Heaven loves and admires a loving parent. Those who love and raise their children unselfishly will be blessed for as long as they live. A Fathers Love.
May God bless you all always,

.John 16:27
No, the Father himself loves you because you have loved me and have believed that I came from God.
John 16:28
I came from the Father and entered the world; now I am leaving the world and going back to the Father."
John 16:30
Now we can see that you know all things and that you do not even need to have anyone ask you questions.
This makes us believe that you came from God."

Giants (The Bigger They Are The Harder They Fall)

All my life I have faced very large hurdles or obstacles. Being that I am a black male in America , short and a single parent, my hurdles or obstacles are sometimes larger than the average person. I often think back on my days in high school, when I was only a freshman. One day I went to school and had to face what most teenage males face everyday, a bully. At that time I had my very first encounter with fear. Outside of fearing my mother or father, I never feared anything and the only reason I ever had to fear them, was if I did something wrong or when I did something I wasn't suppose to. Because if I did then I would be severely punished. Anyway, I was on my way to my locker and then there he was (the bully), a tall and very big guy, which to me at  the time  looked like a giant. I was so scared and I think he knew this because took advantage of the situation. He asked me for my lunch money and to keep from getting my butt kicked I gave it to him. Latter on that day, I went home and my father asked me how was my day. I told him my day went well, but to avoid getting into a fight I gave up my lunch money. My father was so mad I thought that he was going to kill me! He said these words to me that I will never forget," Son, there are only a few things in this world you will ever  have to fear and its not man". One you should always fear God , because only he has the power to give life and the power to take it away. And the other is your mother and I". Why I asked ? Well because if you do something you shouldn't be doing you will be punished. Whew! I still get chills from that conversation, because my parents didn't play and they meant  business.(smile) For those who were raised in the seventies you understand where I am coming from. Back then parents had the liberty to punish their children and my parents never spared the rod.

 After I got a lecture from my father on why I shouldn't fear man, my father told me to go back to school and face my fear.(And I am writing this in a nice way) He said go back to school and if that bully tries to take your lunch money again, hit him with everything you have! The very next day I went back to school,then went back to my locker and there he was waiting to take my lunch money again. The bully asked me , Where is my lunch money? I looked in my locker and prepared myself to fight, then said not today! At that time I knew it was time to over come my fear. He grabbed me and was ready to hit me, then before he could land a lick, I hit him with all my might. I threw as many punches as I could before someone came and broke us up. After that fight I earned respect not only from my bully, but for other students  around me. That day I over came my fear and that scary giant fell. After school was over I went back home and there my father was waiting. He said," Charles, did you do what I asked of you? I told him yes. He had a smile on his face that would light up any room. He told me that he was proud of me, not because I stood up to the bully, but  because I over came my fear. He went on to say son , never let anyone take advantage of you, even in your moments of weakness. Some battles we face are not fought with our hands , but with our heads. Some of the battles we face are the ones we fear, because most of us fear the unknown. We fear living alone, scared of taking chances or fear trying something new. We also sometimes get intimidated when we meet people that are more powerful or knowledgeable than us. But we shouldn't fear them because they are only human and only obtain their strength or power through fear.That is why its so important to read the bible, then get an education and to understand the lessons that your mother or I teach you. In this world you will have to fight many battles and you will not be able to face them alone, if you live in fear. If a battle is to be won, you should always put the ones that seem impossible to win, in the hands of the Mighty God. Because God has the power to conquer all giants and none are as powerful as he.To anyone who is blessed enough to read this, if there is a giant, an obstacle,mountain, hill or problem in your life and if they always seem to get in your way. Call on the power of Jesus and they shall be moved or conquered. Always remember this while living your life there is no problem that can not be solved. The bigger the problem, obstacle or mountain, the harder they shall fall, in Jesus name we pray. Amen!
Have a blessed evening,
Ecclesiastes 8:13 But it shall not be well with the wicked, neither shall he prolong his days, which are as a shadow; because he fears not before God.

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Old Sayings

As I youth I was very blessed to have three generations of relatives around in my childhood. When I grew up, I had the pleasure of seeing my great grandparents on both sides of my family. I also had both grandmothers and grandfathers around too . What made this even more a blessing was hearing them talk about the past and also hearing their thoughts on today's time verses their time. As I think of the good old days, I can only say that I miss them , for both their love and wisdom. But what I enjoyed the most was hearing those famous old sayings, that still stick with me today. They would say things like, "What comes around goes around". Which means  if you treated someone bad, its a very good chance that same bad deed or hurtful feeling just may come back too you. They would also say this, "Do on to others as you would want to be done too you or treat people like you want to be treated. Those two were some of my grandfathers favorite sayings. He explain to me as a child, that people only treat you the way you treat them. He would say son in my day people always respected each other. Men would always open the door for the ladies and women would always greet the men with a smile. He would say but to those knuckle heads or bad people with no respect or proper up bringing. He would say you know the ones who never smile, the ones who always complain and the ones who are always unhappy. He would say Charles ," do you know why those people are so unhappy and always complain "? "I would say no grand daddy I have no ideal why they are that way". Then he would say with a frown and then a smile, well its because they need Jesus! He would look at me with a smile and say son, people will be people, you just have to learn to respect people no matter where they come from. He would also say everyone has their own ideals, anyone that I may meet, grew up  with different backgrounds, parents, religions and different beliefs. He would say even though God made us all in his image, he gave each and everyone of us our own minds. But if you are wise and can read you will find  in the Bible , many of those old sayings that me and your other relatives have told you over the years of your life.In those old sayings you will find the wisdom and the faith to live a life the way God our Father in Heaven wants us to. God wants us to love our neighbor's, respect our elders, honor our fathers and mothers. God also wants us to help the needy and also help those in need. God never wants us to be disrespectful and to always honor men for their good deeds . God also wants us to always to be grateful, for everyday that we open our eyes we are blessed, just to live another day. He would say these are just some of the things all men and women should be thankful for. My grandfather used to say son, we all are living on borrowed time and should live our lives to the fullest. Everyone should enjoy, Gods green Earth while there is still  life in their body. Love one another and stay away from negative or bad people because they will only bring you down. Before he would get another word out of his mouth I would say, "Yes, grandpa I know, birds of a feather do flock together. Then he would say son(with a smile) if you love God and honor Jesus your life will be filled with joy. Live your life like Jesus and you will be rewarded in Heaven. He would say Jesus was a humble man, a forgiving man, loving man and while on Earth he did what his father sent him to do. Jesus healed the sick and fed the needy. He did not let , mans evil ways effect his life here on Earth. Even when both men and women doubted who he was, he stayed faithful and fulfilled his Fathers purpose.Even when being nailed to the cross for a crime he did not commit Jesus still loved his creations, then sacrificed himself on the cross for our sins and on our behalf he asked God to forgive us all for our future and past sins. He would say if you read those old sayings in the good book(the Bible), then apply them to your life, then your life here on Earth will be blessed. Son you will be on the pathway to Heaven and I will be there waiting for you with open arms.
Have a blessed night,

Monday, June 27, 2011

Trust Him , Trust God

 I have been inspired by one of my  friends to write this one. Since almost all of my friends happen to be mostly  women, I thought I would give you all some very important information on men, since I happen to be one of them .(smile) First I'll like to give you my definition of a man. Age has nothing to do with a man being a man or a woman being a woman. Yes, its very true the legal age of a man in 18 and the same can be said for a woman. But age does not change a boy into a man. Boys over the years mature in to being a man. Our life experiences,the way we were raised as young men help shape us into being men. I know a lot of you are saying , okay Charles get to the point. Okay, being a man means first being able to take care of ourselves, provide for ourselves, loves ourselves and having  respect for others. Most of us were taught to be strong, never to cry, never express our feelings and to always be on guard when it comes to our heart. I have been taught as a young boy, that if I did not love myself, I could not love another. My father used to say love yourself first, you are number one and there is nothing in this world you can not do if you try.Well that's just a small part of what a man really is.
Now when it comes to a man giving his heart,well we do not do that easily. Its hard for us to break down and give ourselves to someone. We do not wear our emotions on our sleeves and despite what women think of us, we do have hearts. We love just like women do, but in different ways. When we love a woman and give our heart to them we give our all. Is it the way that women would like? No not at all, that because we are not made that way. The minute a woman tries to change a man in to what she thinks he should be, that is when he ceases being the man you fell in love with. When God created man, his ideal for man was to be the strong ,the protector, the provider and the head of the household. The woman was suppose to be the help mate and the protector of a mans heart. Does that mean she did not have to work? Well in the old days, no. But the bible if you have a true understanding of it changed from that. The New Testament made provisions for that, because God knows all things and knew of our future. God knew that men would need women more in this changing world. That's where the ideal of help mate comes from. The woman is a man help mate, his rib and his equal. She is to walk beside him and not behind him. Where he is weak, she should be his strength . But not too strong to keep him from being what he is and what God wants him to be. Men and women should be equal partners. Standing shoulder to shoulder as a team or as one.
 Men or women should never  fight against each other, but instead for each other. If they are to become what God wants them to be, then they should always respect their parts or roles as a team. Every man has his place and a woman has her place. But as a team , together both can do anything and when they are attacked by the Devil. My mother would always say this every time somebody tried to harm our family, When they mess with one of us, then they mess with all of us. That's how God feels when someone tries to harm his children and as you know vengeance is his. God will fight your battles, if you just trust him and allow him to fix it.
 When something goes wrong in a relationship or marriage, men or women tend to blame each other for their problems, without recognizing that the devil is out to seek and destroy their happiness.A friend of mine once asked me what should she do when people or the devil try to take or destroy what's hers. Then I answered her by saying , Tell the devil that he is a liar and God is my strength! As hard as this must seem, we all should learn too trust each other and always trust God. God has a plan for us all and the journey with through Christ may not be easy, but if you have faith in him all things are possible. There will be challenges, hard times or heart breaks, but if you love him,  trust him and allow God too lead the way, then great things will happen. Always, remember this as long as you live," Great strength  comes from faith in God". Have faith that what ever problems that may come your way, God will work it out for the better.Make it a point  trust God our Father in Heaven with all of your affairs.
May God bless you all,

Sunday, June 26, 2011

Child Of God

When you hear the term Child of God what does that mean to you and when you hear other people call themselves as Children of God, what thought's comes to your mind? While some people will give themselves self proposed tittles such as Apostle, Prophet and others many who call themselves these things aren't worthy of those names or tittles. The main reason why is because most who give themselves these names don't really  comprehend or understand the real meaning behind these biblical tittles. Also most who claim these tittles as their own, don't fully realize the implications for being an impostor's or false prophets of God. First thing that most people do not realize is by birth we are all children of God. God our Father with the aid of his son Jesus Christ created all races and all things. Men and woman were Gods prized creations. In fact it is written that man was created in Gods image. Also a child of God must realize that if you claim the tittle you have to live up to the part. That means if you are a member of the church, sing in the choir, deacon, pastor or minister, you should always remember that not only are you a representative of the church but also a representative of God our Father in Heaven himself. Its not only a service but an honor to serve our Father In Heaven.

 What does being a Child of God or a representative of the Most High really means? It means when one leaves the house of God, serving God does not end there, it begins the moment they leave it. They should also walk like, talk like and then act like a Child of God in public. Which means even though they may live in the world they should not be influenced by its ways.  Being a child of God means being fearless, which means you should only fear God. That means when a child of God is in public, they should be fearless because our Father in Heaven and his Angels always has their back. Its means forgiving others, just like our Father in Heaven has forgiven you. That means when someone does or says something wrong and even if they have hurt you, then you should some how find it in your heart to forgive them. It means being patient for it is written, being patient is a virtue. Which means sometimes you have to wait for certain things to happen. Then wait for the right opportunity or opportunities to get what you want or need.

 Being a child of God, also means never to be judgmental, for it is written," Judge not and be not judged". Which means no one is free of sin and it also means that no one is perfect. Just because you are a child of God or a messenger of our Father in Heaven does not mean you are above or better than anyone else. Most Christians, Ministers, Pastors and members of the church must realize that its not about them, its about the Father and his son Jesus Christ. Because without them nothing wouldn't matter anyway. A Child Of God should always be confident and should know that God our Father will always provide for their needs. For it is also written ," You have not because you ask not, ask and it shall be given". A Child Of God should be someone people in the world always admire, because their love of God would shine through them.  A Child Of God would love their mothers, honor their fathers, cherish their children and always respect their elders. Being a true child of God no one in the world, would be confused about the God they serve, because they will live the way that our Father in Heaven commanded them too. Even through pain, sickness or health and no matter how many storms, trails or tribulations they may go through. A true Child Of God will always remain faithful, trustworthy and true. For a Child Of God, already knows that the battle is not theirs, it's in fact the Lords.
Have a blessed day,
Revelation 22:11-12
(11) He that is unjust , let him be unjust still: and he that is filthy, let him still be filthy still: and he that is righteous, let him still be righteous still: and he that is holy, let him be holy still.(12) And behold, I come quickly; and my reward is with me, to give every man according as his work shall be.

Friday, June 24, 2011

Stop Being So Negative!

This is a journal that everyone needs to read. If you happen to be a parent, husband, wife, someones best friend, pastor or child of God this can change your out look on life. First thing everyone needs to realize is that we all live in an imperfect world and none of us is free of sin.It doesn't matter what level or income bracket you are in everyone has issues, problems, troubles or are experiencing some type of pain. Even the very rich have problems that are very similar to those that are poor.Why would I say this? Well if you read the paper, look at the news or have access to a computer, then you would realize that being rich ,only affords one thing that other people with less income is accustom too. That's the ability to buy or purchase what every they may want or need. Other than that they are just like the rest of the world. The rich have to fear death, they also have family problems, political beliefs and some even worship God. But the thing that all of us have in common is the very one thing that keeps us apart.This very thing keeps us, from being close to our children, our mothers, fathers, family members, friends and even our own spouses. It also keeps us from succeeding in life and more important than that it even separates us from God. What is this thing? Its negativity! Being  negative can make people not want to be around you .If you happen to be someone or know of someone who always complains, fusses, fights and argues, then most people, then you will understand why most people avoid those who are negative. People generally want to associate themselves with someone that is always positive. Beside that its a fact that there is enough negativity in the world and no one needs to be reminded on how bad things are or how many mistakes they have made. Even a child realizes it when they have made a mistake. Even though some may need to be reminded more than once about their past mistakes or sins, if its done in a constructive way they will get the point and change in time.
My advice to anyone who may happen to be reading this, if you happen to have a husband, wife, child or friend that has made mistake or even if they hurt you in the past or in the present.Please forgive them and move on.Its a fact that the only way to reach Heaven is by forgiving someone of their sins. By the blood of Jesus we all are forgiven for our past and future sins, so shall we be forgiving of others. As hard as this my seem,one should always try to look for positive solutions to yours and other peoples problems.
To those rare group of people that feel that there are no positives in their life I have this to say," Everyone makes mistakes and everyone has hurt by someone or somebody and there is no one free of sin. Mistakes is just another way of making things right. Some people have to fail first before they can succeed. Even in marriage people will make mistakes and  hurt their spouses. Many times some just need time adjusting to the ideal of being married. The same thing applies when raising a family, some have to adjust to being a parent or have to adjust being, head of the house or help mate so. Also to those who say ,"well my husband or wife was unfaithful ". Well if you have truly forgiven them, then God can and will change them in time. You must look at the positives when someone hurts you or even when someone or even yourself makes a mistake. Look at it this way if a person truly wants to change and ask you for forgiveness, then God our Father is in the mix. With him in your life, your marriage and as head of your family all can over come any sins or weather any storm.Take my advice, stop being so negative and stop reminding them ,how bad of  person they used to be or of the mistakes they have made in their past. I am pretty sure they already know, that they are not perfect and they truly want to change. After you have forgiven them, put them in the hands of the Lord .God can turn any bad situation into a good one. Trust him , then never loose faith and everything will be alright with the blessing from God.
Have a blessed night,
Psalm 15:1-3
(1) Have mercy upon me O God , according to thy loving kindness: according unto the multitude of thy tinder mercies blot out my transgressions.(2) Wash me thoroughly from mine iniquity and cleanse me from my sin. (3) For I acknowledge my transgressions: and my sin  is ever before me.

God Has Not Given Up On You Yet

It seems everywhere I turn I see people struggling with their finances, while others are struggling with their children, relationships or marriages. Then there are some that have health problems or have problems with their careers. Even though some may have family members like mothers, fathers, brothers or sisters none of them are there to help them in their time of need. Instead of offering help they offer bad advice and some have the nerve to criticize or as my late grandmother would say kick you when you are down. These family members are the ones that supposedly care for you, love you and the ones who should understand. But what is worse than that, is when the man or woman you are married to turn their backs on you. Instead of helping you, they hurt you and act like its your fault, just like the people in the outside world. You may say to yourself ,"I thought when we both took our vows it was for better or worse richer or poor, till death do us part. Then you may find yourself asking yourself these questions, Why won't he or she love me, then support me in my time of need? With so many problems in the world today, some may want to give up, then take the easy way out by taking their own lives.

I have heard some people say , that they are better dead than alive and I have also heard others say that God does not love me anymore. Some may scream God does not care and he does not understand what I am going through. Others may feel that God does not care about their struggles and that he does not hear their cries. They may say to themselves or even shout out these words to God ; God have you given up on me? Are you punishing me for my past mistakes? Am I cursed? My marriage is in trouble, my brothers, sisters and even my own parents do not care! I do not have a job, no money and my family does not seem to care! I do not have anywhere to live and no one seems to care or want to help me! No one really loves me !Please put me out of my misery because I do not want to keep on living and I am better off dead than alive! I just want to give up because I am tired of struggling, fighting and tired of being depressed all by myself.
To those who may feel this way, I want you to know that I understand. I have been in your shoes and wanted to give up myself many times before. But I never stopped praying, even though there were many days and nights that tears flowed from my eyes. Sometimes I would cry uncontrollable and many times because of stress I wouldn't eat. But just when I thought about giving up ,God started blessing me and showing me that it wasn't my time to go. The first blessing was small, the next was even bigger and the next was just simply a miracle. After that Gods miracles and blessing started to flow as if it was raining from the sky. It seem everyday turn out to be  more of a blessing than the next and my future turn out to be even brighter. Those days of being in darkness were a thing of the past. My life improved and my out look on life changed. Then I realized that I was only being tested and my prayers were being answered. I said these very words to myself," God has not given up on me and he truly cares". He loves me despite my faults or mistakes. He loves me even when I am down and depressed. He only sees good in me, when others only see a broken man. God can see in me what others are incapable of seeing, for he sees my future. My mother, my father, my children and even my mate couldn't, see the good in me , only the one who created me could truly realize my true fate. For God has the power to heal, the power to create and the power to turn a bad situation, into something good or beautiful. To those who may think their life is over remember this, you may have given up, but God Has Not Given Up On You Yet. Wipe away those tears, get up and do something about you situation or your life . God is on your side and will never leave you or will never forsake you. God is both your supporter and provider. Through him all things are possible, through Christ and there will never be minute, hour or day that God will turn you away. No, God Has Not Given Up On You Yet!
Have a blessed day,
Proverb's 8:9-14
009:They are all plain to him that understand, and right to them that find knowledge.
010:Receive my instruction, and not silver; and knowledge rather than choice gold.
011:For wisdom is better than rubies; and all the things that may be desired are not to be compared to it.
012:I wisdom dwell with prudence, and find out knowledge of witty inventions.
013:The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogance, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate.

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Born Without A Choice

As I write this journal, I have some very mixed emotions, because I know it may cause me to loose some friends and maybe some readers. But as I once heard an old preacher may say, "I rather loose some friends or family members than to loose my soul "! If you are a believer of God and know that Gods only son Jesus Christ died on the cross for our sins, then you may not have a problem with what I am about to write. But if you love the world or if your heart or mind has been corrupted by the devil or media, I know without a doubt you won't like a single word written in this blog. As I have read the Bible, I realize that God our Father in Heaven created both man and woman with a purpose. He also created everything else like the birds, creatures of the sea, mammals, plants and other creatures with a purpose too. Each of God creations were created to be nothing more and nothing less than what they were created to be. As an example a dog cannot be a cat as well as a cat cannot be a dog. If you are a logical person you would know this example to be a fact or true. Also as a child of God you also would realize and know that God our Father in Heaven does not make mistakes. His will is perfect as well as his plan. It was the devil and mans mistake that's  is the root behind sin. In the beginning God created the Heavens, the Earth, he also created both man, woman and the angels. Being that both have their individual minds, some decided to rebel against their Creator and therefore began to sin.

 The reason why I am giving a brief history is to lead those who may read this, is because I want people to realize that in the end its not what we may want for ourselves. Its what God our Father in Heaven wants and expects from his creations. Believe it or not both man and woman were created to be a man or a woman. God made them, name them and provided each with a set of rules before he let them go out in the world on their own. (Adam & Eve) God did in the beginning what most responsible parents would do after raising their own children. But what makes what God does as a father and what we do as parents different, is that Gods way is the only way. God is more than our Father, he is also our creator and he also knows our future. God knows the consequences for our actions and where our destructive behavior will lead. Even though their may be some men or women out their that feel that they were born a certain way, the main fact is that God does not make mistakes. Even in genetics if a man or woman were born with some parts that belong to the other sex, it happen that way because of what the human mother or father did before the child was conceived. Both man and woman have certain bad habits , like taking drugs, over drinking alcohol or having inappropriate sex with relatives that can contribute to the unborn child to be deformed. In the end the child pays the price for their parents mistakes or their past sins.

 As adults we all have many choices, we can either live the right way or the wrong way. Most of us were not born drug addicts, alcoholics, thieves, smokers, whores or criminals , but those who chose to be those things are not because God intended on them being that way. Just like men or women, some may say that they were born gay or born bisexual. Well the word says that's a crime against nature. Also being that anything that is not of God is, a choice. The truth to the matter is when God created both man or woman they were, Born Without A Choice. They were created to be men or women, if they made the choice to be something other than what God created them to be then its between them and the Creator. Every man or woman has a simple choice to make. Which is to follow or honor God's laws or ways and go to Heaven or follow Satan then go to hell, its up to them. For those who chose God also chooses life and for those who wants to please the flesh or Satan also chooses death. The choice is clearly up to us and God will not make that decision for us. One of the main reasons for Christ great sacrifices are for us as human beings or sinners to have a chance at getting ourselves together or to repent for our sins. The fact every human being must realize is that God created man , in his own image, that with in itself is an honor. God created both man and woman to be what he created them to be. Its up to the individual to make the choice on living the right way or the wrong way. Born only to serve God and also Born Without a Choice!
Be blessed,
Leviticus 18:30 Keep my requirements and do not follow any of the detestable customs that were practiced before you came and do not defile yourselves with them. I am the LORD your God.'"
Romans 2:5 But because of your stubbornness and your unrepentant heart, you are storing up wrath against yourself for the day of God's wrath, when his righteous judgment will be revealed.
Ezekiel 16:50 They were haughty and did detestable things before me. Therefore I did away with them as you have seen
2 Corinthians 5:21 God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

It Doesn’t Hurt Anymore

Life, wow just saying the word  Life is a statement within itself. As I think about all the changes my life has gone through I wonder sometimes, how did I make it or what got me through it. Then I am reminded everyday, without God our Father in Heaven watching over me and Gods son Jesus great sacrifice I couldn’t or wouldn’t have been here to give this testimony. Its funny how life is especially when we are hurting. Most of the time when we are being hurt, lied too or deceived we often feel as if we are the only ones going through such pain or suffering. But in truth there is pain all around us and there are a lot of people out there that can relate to our pain. I have been through so much in my life and my heart broken so many times, that it would be hard for even the most skilled surgeon to repair it . Thank God for Jesus, because he can and has healed me many times. One may think that I love punishment or that I enjoy pain. Other may feel that being in love or seeking love, is not worth it, because it so painful and that I am just setting myself up for disappointment. All I can say to those people is that yes, I have been hurt and I have shed my share of tears. But through it all Jesus saved me and although I have some bad memories and made some bad choice's it, does not hurt anymore. Why you may ask? Well it’s because for every bad situation, heartache, break up and yes even when someone tells me that I am not worthy or not good enough for them, I know in my heart I still have Jesus. Jesus is my healer and I know he loves me. God’s son wants me to love again and to never give up, just as he did not give up on me. The old saying is, “That God knows my heart”. That statement is very true, our Father in Heaven is already aware of our pain and suffering. All he wants his children to do is to acknowledge him and ask him to remove our pain. He wants his children to truly give ourselves and our problems to him. God not only wants our praise he also wants us to practice our faith. There is a song that’s very popular the title is, Let go and let God. What this song means is try not to solve the problems that you are truly incapable of solving. Give your problems, troubles or pain to a higher power. Give them to God and his son Jesus. When you do in time you will begin to heal, those painful memories will begin to fade and in time so will your pain. When it’s over then you will feel like a new person and whole again. With Gods good grace your life will have a new beginning. Guess what your pain and suffering that you been having, doesn’t hurt anymore.
Have a blessed night,

Fools Gold

Have you ever wondered why there are so many single beautiful people in the world today. Or have you ever wondered why both men and women seem to have a hard time keeping their husbands or wives. Most of these people seem to have their act together or seem to be good people. Some of these people have been married many times or have been in multiple relationships. If you ask them why, then they would always blame the other person and never take responsibility for their own actions. It goes back to what my mother always used to say, what looks good isn't always good or these people can be called fools gold or a wolf is sheep clothing . What do I mean by this? Well just because a man or woman looks good , has a good job or has a high position, doesn't  mean that they are good people. Some people use their beauty and figures as fronts to hide the real person inside. Then there are others who have been blessed with good jobs or wealth . These people feel just because they have more money than the next guy, that they are better than everyone else. When they get into a relationship, they treat the person they are with like a possession . But most of us fall for a persons looks or for what they possess . We forget about the most important thing, it not what they look like or what they possess, its what's in  their  heart that really counts. My mother had a famous saying that still sticks with me today , "When the looks fade, only the heart remain" or  after the money and possession are taken away, only the real person remains. Behind close doors, the real person is revealed and then people wonder, why they were fooled by the looks of a person?

Just because they look innocent, sweet , nice , handsome, beautiful and God-fearing doesn't mean they are that way.If you are seeking a mate or spouse these are just some of the questions you should ask . Will they love me, through the good times as well as the bad? Will they always be this sweet and kind? Are they real God-fearing people? (Even some people in the church are bad people) Will they love my children and family? Will they support my goals, my desires and my dreams? Are they a good person or is this just an act? These are questions you should ask yourself and before making a decision, you should always pray and ask God. Because God will bring out what's in the dark into the light and give you an early warning. He will let you know if you are dealing with a man or woman that's for real. Or he will let you know if its just Fools Gold, wolf in sheep clothing ,someone with something to hide or someone with an unhidden motive .
Have a blessed night,

Daniel 2:22
He reveals deep and hidden things; he knows what lies in the darkness and light dwells with him.
Job 12:22
He reveals the deep things of darkness and brings utter darkness into the light.
Job 26:6
The realm of the dead is naked before God; Destruction lies uncovered.
Psalm 25:14
The LORD confides in those who fear him; he makes his covenant known to them.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011


 When you really think about life, really its hard to phantom it without, ups or downs , good  or bad times. Just like my father used to always tell me," The mark of real man or woman is not how you handle your good times or situations, but how you handle or overcome the bad ones". For those who may be puzzled by this statement, take your time and read every word, that I am about to type right now. Then you will determine just as I have, that my father was not only a very wise man, but also very right. As much as we all want the world to be perfect or our lives to be without stress, pain or suffering, it will not happen as long as we live in the flesh. For every man , woman or child are born in sin, therefore life will never be perfect.When I think about my own life , I think about how much my life has changed over the years. From being a new born baby in my mothers arms and now a grandfather holding my own grand babies in my arms. Life sometimes has a strange twist of events and it goes by so quickly, one has to wonder why does it go so fast. As I think about the subject of love, it makes me think about my most resent past. Where I was a man so focus and determine to get what I wanted out of life; as far as taking care of my children, my career and also taking good care of my body. I was and still a type of person that will work hard to get the things that I want. I am a very determine man( my mother raised me this way). She would say "Charles nothing in life is free and if you want something you will have to work hard to get it and also equally to keep it".When I got out on my own, I took her words to heart and did what ever I had to become successful. I was focused, very determined, I knew exactly what I wanted and had a plan devised so that I would become a success. Even when it came to dating or having children, I also had a plan. Failure wasn't an option, but as you know even the best plans fail and I failed a lot, sometimes miserably especially when it came to raising children and marriage.

 Latter in life I decided that I wanted a wife and having those material things, didn't matter much because I  and my children were also getting older. I latter found my wife and four years latter divorced. After that, my life was in disarray and I lost focus. The person I was before, I got married was gone and the confident man I was now lost. If you ever been divorced, lost a home, a job, had a life changing, experience, decease or lost a love one, due to death, then you  may understand where I am coming from. Being in those types of situations can cause any man or woman to loose focus and not be the person they are used to being. Even if things are going well, you may also lose focus, because you may have become to comfortable with your life. That is how many of us gain weight or get out of shape and some may lose their touch because they stop being, who they were before their life started to change. Some of you may wonder or ask yourself this question. Why is it even when I am doing well, that I may sometimes loose myself? In most cases it because the devil may cause you to lose focus and concentrate on things that are not good or too sin. This has happen to me in my past and the only way I regain my focus was by going to church then, giving my life to Christ. After that I started to find myself again and also now I am much better than I was in my past. Instead of thinking about what I want to accomplish, I refocused my life , then did what God wanted me to do. The point I am trying to make is, God will make sure you do not hurt yourself and help keep you focused. Most of the time when we experience pain or loss its because of something we have done to ourselves. Now there are situations where people die naturally or have accident's. But when it comes to relationships, job lose or even some accidents, it  may be because of our own human error. God always warns us, then gives us all example's that way we will be able to avoid trouble. If people Refocus their lives and concentrate on Gods will, then he will make their pathways straight. God will give those who believe in him, what their heart desires and having God in their lives will help them to refocus on their own lives. Also having God in your life, will allow you to stay determine and he will clear your life, then free it from most drama or pain. God will give you help where others are unable too. Refocus your life and concentrate on God, then start living for Christ and you will never lose focus or ever have to Refocus again. REFOCUS!!!
Have a blessed night,
 Galatians 6:8 The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.

Sunday, June 19, 2011

The Power Of The Spoken Word

Did you know that you have power when you speak or say things? In the bible Its says," In the beginning there was God and with God was the Word. Also the bible says," you can speak thing into existence. That mean what you say can and will become possible. That's why we all have to be very careful when we say something or claim certain things in our lives, because if we aren't careful those very words may come back to hunt us. Words have been know to start wars, to break up marriages, to start rumors, to crush people egos or hearts, ruin friendships,break up family's and the list goes on and on. But if one uses wisdom and speak positive thing in ones life,then you can get positive results.When talking to your mate, your children and your family speak very carefully. Especially when angry, because that when we say harmful words ,that hurt or scar a person for lifetime. Once a someone says something or says a certain word, it can't ever be taken back and it will remain in that person memory for a lifetime. I have learned that every man, woman or child has the ability or power to hurt, to inspire, re-shape, destroy, to bring happiness, to bring sadness,stress and even cause health problems to those who they speak words too.

 As a brother, father, family member or mentor, I know that the words I speak can either cause some harm, while other words can help others. There is an old saying,that my late grandmother use to say, "If you can not say nothing nice, then one should say nothing at all". We all get angry, but at the same time we should all be very careful when we are angry. Our words can shape a person mind or thoughts and leave a good or bad impression on them for a lifetime. The devil loves it when we are angry, because he is the cause of confusion. His job is to seek and destroy. If one lets him or allows him in their lives, he will break up their marriage, ruin friendships and destroys or separates ones family forever. My advice is simple if one becomes angry,then they should go into another room, then say this prayer;
 Father God, I am angry do not allow the devil to guide my thoughts or words.Please take away these evil thoughts or awful feelings then guide me with your power and wisdom. Give me the ability to say or speak words that are only pleasing to you. Do not let the devil destroy my marriage, my family or re-shape my children. Father God guide me and put in my thoughts the right words to express my thoughts or feelings.With your love, your forgiveness, your strength and your wisdom , I know I can say express myself in the right way. The Christan way that pleases only you. I claim this victory over this curse the devil and this evil world in the mighty name of Jesus!We pray, Amen! With this prayer I know that you will say or speak the right words that are pleasing to God.Then very shortly after that. the positive spoken words today or tonight will be a blessing to you, your family and your career. It will also bring glory to our Father in Heaven.The power of one or many spoken words, can change, then remove all bad or evil in ones lives for a lifetime. Keep the faith and never forget, The Power Of The Spoken Word!
Have a wonderful night and be blessed in Jesus name,
Matthew 12:36 But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken.

Friday, June 17, 2011

In A Judgmental World

We live in a world where every ones life is on display for the whole world to see. On face book, twitter, my space, social networks and television people judge other people actions, crimes or sins. In Today's time there are brothers turning against brothers, sisters turning against sisters and children disrespecting their parents. Church members talking about other members and co-workers talking about or judging their co-workers behind their backs. When I am at work or out in the world there is constant conversation's about the people in the world. In everybody thoughts or words I would hear statements like; I cannot believe he or she did that or what is wrong with her or him shouldn't they know better. People in the world are constantly talking about each other or judging each other for their actions or sins. The outside world is like a soap opera or reality show, where people are constantly being judged, watched or talked about. What most people fail to realize is that their house is unclean or they don't have their own affairs or house in order. What this statement means, is everyone is a sinner and there is no one that has the power to judge another man or woman's actions or sins. That power is exclusively for our Father God! Its really amusing to me to see or hear people criticize other people when the fact its is their own lives are in shambles. What's sad is now instead of having to fear people on the outside, we have to watch our own family members. In fact the people closest to us are like wolves in sheep clothing, appearing to love us, but instead stabbing or plotting our next down fall.

 My mother used to always tell me as a child, "Son before you open your mouth to criticize someone else, make sure your act together". In other words; never put anyone down or even think negative thoughts about someone especially when you do not know or understand that persons situation. I was taught never to assume anything and always give a person the benefit of doubt. As a father I have to make sure my children also have the same type of values that were instilled in me. I make sure my son knows to always put God first, to respect women and as hard as this may sound to others never judge a person because of their color or race. When my son would ask me a question when it comes to race I would say to him that there is only one real race and that's the human race. I would go on to explain to him that all humans came from and were created by God. The reason why I and most parents try to instill values in our children is because, we are in some since accountable for their actions. If our children fail or become something other than what they should be or ought to be it may be because the parent or parents did not properly prepare them for the outside world. When raising my son, I never forget that he is getting older and one day he will be on his own.  That is why I do not baby, my son or spoil him. I make him understand that life is not easy and you have to work for everything you get. If anything is given and its seems to be free then there is always something attached to it. My father had this famous saying, "Nothing in life is free". He would go on to say , Son when you came into the world we had to pay for you to be born and when you leave it someone will have to pay to bury you. The only thing that's truly free is the love of God and he loves you unconditionally. But mans love comes with a price and you should always be aware of people with hidden agendas. Before you even think about criticizing anyone else, you should instead clean up your own house first and always be aware that everyone has done something in their past or present lives that they are ashamed of. If a person remains humble and has the love of God in their hearts. Then they will be able to look over peoples mistakes and then learn to be forgiving. They will be on their way to becoming a God fearing, humble children, men or women of God,  In a Judgmental World.
Have a blessed day,
1 Corinthians 4:5
Therefore judge nothing before the appointed time; wait until the Lord comes. He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of the heart. At that time each will receive their praise from God.

A Leap Of Faith

Living day by day, I have found that life it self is  getting harder too bare and also that life sometimes can be very unkind. Everywhere you look a crime is being committed, people are being laid off,some are losing their homes, their life savings and there are now more divorce or single people in the world than married people. If you really look at the world then  you will find that  people are giving up easier. Some are taking their own lives and no one seems to have much faith or patience. Because of their lack of faith there are  many divorces, suicides and so many people just plain giving up on life. There are so many things to fear in the world and there are so many false rumors being spread by the media. That's its hard to decipher whats the truth or whats a lie. It makes one wonder who to trust or what to believe? Before I became saved I would wonder to myself who could I count on in my time of need or where could I draw my strength when I became weak? Then early one Sunday morning I gave my life to Jesus and my life has never been the same. That's why I praise you O Lord Jesus, for keeping me safe and for providing for me in my time of need.

  I have this advice to those who are blessed enough too be  reading this. If you are trusting a man or a woman and you are waiting on them to make you happy or to be a supplier of all your needs. By all means stop! Why would I make a statement? Because the Bible clearly says do not trust man, because he will only disappoint you. Besides men or women really have no power to deliver on their promises and without God they couldn't do what they say they would do anyway. I have been often asked, "Well, Charles if I can not trust my man or woman why have them? Then I would say to them or too anyone who reads this if your trust man then your  faith is being  miss-placed. You are only suppose to trust God and your job is to love your spouse or mate , not to trust them. Why? Because we are all sinners,all of us will make mistakes, each of us are weak in the flesh and when you put your trust or faith in man they will only disappoint you.

Our expectations of our spouses are too high for them to reach . What we want or expect from our future husbands or wives is impossible for them to achieve. That's why we all should put our trust and faith in God. He is the most High and its impossible for him to fail. We can trust his word or his judgment for it is perfect. For God, our Father in Heaven knows our beginnings as well as our endings. If we just take that little leap in faith and take advantage of every opportunity  then our Father in Heaven will do the rest in his own time. Gods plan for each of us is perfect and nothing he allows us to experience  happens by chance. God knows our heart and our desires. If we remain faithful, he will open doors, give us the love of our life and we will become abundantly successful or blessed. All we have to do it take  more chances, walk by faith and when God opens up new doors of opportunity.Then we should  have  enough courage or faith to walk into the doors opened by God. Remember this only God knows your future and only he can guide you into the right direction. So when seeking advice go to his appointed people(Priest, Pastors, Preacher's) or just simply pray. That way you know that your life will be guided in the right direction and with Gods blessing, by taking that little walk or Leap Of Faith.
Have a blessed night,
Proverbs 1:20 Wisdom crieth without; she utterer her voice in the streets:
1:21 She crieth in the chief place of concourse, in the openings of the gates:
in the city she uttereth her words, saying,
1:22 How long, ye simple ones, will ye love simplicity? and the scorners delight
in their scorning, and fools hate knowledge?
1:23 Turn you at my reproof: behold, I will pour out my spirit unto you, I will
make known my words unto you.
1:24 Because I have called, and ye refused; I have stretched out my hand, and no
man regarded;
1:25 But ye have set at nought all my counsel, and would none of my reproof:
1:26 I also will laugh at your calamity; I will mock when your fear cometh;