Friday, May 27, 2011

Free At Last!!!

Do you sometimes feel like you are in prison? Are you in abusive relationship or marriage that you feel trapped in or in one that you are afraid of leaving? Do you have a job or career that you feel unhappy with and want a change? Are you unhappy with your life and feel that you need a change , but do not know what to do to make that happen? If you are reading this chances are you have answered, yes to one of these questions. Many times in our lives we become trapped in relationship's, jobs and situations that we feel we cannot escape from. Then we become unhappy, which can lead to stress , which latter can even affect our health. Depression sets in and it begins to affect our lives. Our friend's or family members instead of being supportive begin to turn on us , just like the  people in outside world. Most will begin to think that no one loves them and there is no way out of their situation. But I have news for those who seek a new beginning and want to be free. God does love you and God does understand your needs. He does not want you to suffer and he does not want you to worry. If you are looking for a new life or a new direction turn all of your problems or troubles to him, then he will begin to free you from all of  your pain. God our Father in Heaven will open up new doors and give your life a sense of purpose. He will begin to move bad people out of your life , then replace them with , good ,positive, God fearing people that love God and also love life. Instead of criticism, you will receive words of wisdom. Instead of abuse you will receive love and affection. Instead of unhappiness you will become complete and your new life will have a true purpose. After you have turned your life over to Christ, you will become new and free. Your eyes will begin to open and you will see the world like you never have seen it before. Then you will be able to life your life with more freedom and with less restrictions. God our Father in Heaven will begin to open up new doors and give you the desires of your heart. Then you will find there is no personal joy greater than having freedom and being able to enjoy life the way that God intended you to live. Once God has freed you from your depression, your guilt and your shame, you will not ever want to go back to living that way again. After you received these blessing, you will be compelled to get on your knees and pray ," Free at last, thank God  O Mighty ,I  am free at last"!
 Have a blessed night,
Exodus 6:7 And I will take you to me for a people, and I will be to you a God: and you shall know that I am the LORD your God, which brings you out from under the burdens of the Egyptians.
Ephesians 2:14 For he himself is our peace, who has made the two one and has destroyed the barrier, the dividing wall of hostility,
Isaiah 61:1 The Spirit of the Lord GOD is on me; because the LORD has anointed me to preach good tidings to the meek; he has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound;

The Good The Bad And The Ugly

Can You Be?

When I was younger, I distincly remember either my mother or my father asking me this question,"Charles what do you want to be when you grow up?" Being young and naive I told them that I wanted to be a scientist. As any proud parent would do, they encouraged me and said these very same words as I have said to my own children.(You can do or be anything if you put your mind to it) This statement has been said or used by many caring parents everyday. But I added to this statement now that I am a parent myself. I would ask my own son this question , Marcus can you be? I remember him saying to me, Dad what are you talking about can I be? That's when I explained to him that everyone has a dream or thought , but to make it happen takes time,effort and plenty of sacrifice. As a child I wanted to be a scientist, but after I grew up I realized that being a scientist requires many years of college. So I determined that I did not want to sacrifice that much of my time and went into another direction. Through out my many years of life I have had many dreams, wants and desires. I dreamed one day I would be married, with kids, a house and a successful career. I know if you are reading this, you would be saying to yourself," Well everything you just dreamed about is attainable so what happen?" Well to tell you the truth in most cases I wasn't ready and I didn't properly prepare myself. When I became a father, it was at a time when I was young and immature. I didn't really understand what being a real father was all about. When I got married, I didn't understand what being a husband or what  being married really meant. Also when I seek out my career I didn't really apply myself they way I should and prepare myself financially. After some thought I forget or neglected to ask myself these questions, Can I be a father? Can I really be a good  husband? Am I ready for the career that I chose? Am I ready to make the necessary sacrifices to be what or who I want to be? Can I handle being away from my children or family when I move to another city, state or country? Am I properly prepared? These are the questions that many of us neglect to ask ourselves before we make serious decisions. I have also found as a born again christen, that even some of us forget that consulting God before we make any decision is very important. As my son looked at me after I got through running my mouth. He looked both confused and exhausted. Then I looked at him and smiled. I said ,Son I know I talk a lot, preach a lot and seem to fuss a lot. But I only do these things because I love you.  I also want you to be prepared for the outside world and before you do or be anything in life, please ask yourself this question. Can I be? To those who may  have taken time to read this, think about who you are and what you want to be, before you do it. Because as my father would say there is a consequence for every action, good or bad. Properly prepare yourself before you take or do anything seriously. Always pray, then consult God before you make a decision and before you say ,what you  want  to be  in life. Make sure you know what you are talking about. Anybody can say they can be a good husband or a good wife. Anybody can say they can be a good parent or be successful in whatever career they may chose. But the question is can you really be who you say you are or who you may want to be? So think before you leap and always pray, then seek or consult God for an answer.
May God continue to bless you always,
Matthew 22:37 Jesus replied: "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'

Life Is Hard But Its Fair

One of my fathers favorite sayings is , "Life Is Hard But Its Fair". As a youth I had a hard time understanding what he meant by his favorite saying . But now that I am older, a little wiser and have experience life for myself, I now have a good grasp or understanding on what my father meant by this statement. What I have learned is if  you really want something in life, such as material things, money, happiness or even love you will have to work hard to get it and even harder to keep it . It reminds me of an old saying," Nothing earned is nothing gained or No pain, no gain ".  If you have a plan, stick to it, stay determine and never loose focus, then you will succeed. As a youth I was one of those type of people that was very determine. When I wanted something, I did what ever it took to get it. At that time in my life peoples opinions of me didn't matter. I was very focused and I made the most of every second of the day. I used to  do what  most Christians would say, speak them into Existence. I would say I was going to be a success,even before It happen.

 As I think about my past it makes me remember something my mother used to always say to me. She would say "As you grow older, stay confident  and make it an habit to either improve yourself or to learn something new everyday". The things you do well, keep doing them ,but the bad habits or mistakes you have made, learn from them and then move on. She would go on to say," Never loose yourself during this process called life". When she made this last statement it kind of puzzled me, so I question her. Then she would say life has many ups and downs, there will be many bumps or bruises, but no matter what happens or transpires in ones life they should never loose focus. What I loved about my mother , was that she never lied to me. She always told me that life was hard. She also constantly reminded me, that if I worked hard believed in myself and God, then the possibilities' were unlimited. She would say, Charles you can be or do anything in life, but its going to take a lot of hard work and in some cases plenty of sacrifice. She would go on to say no one is going to give you anything for free and if they say that they are, don't believe them because no one does anything without expecting something in return. Charles you will have to work for everything you may want or desire. In life there is nothing is free and there is always a cost for everything. Then she said something that has stuck deep down in my spirit until this very day. No one gets any where alone or by themselves without God constantly watching over each of us, protecting us from evil and even ourselves nothing would be possible that's why I always give him praise.

Now that I am older I have to constantly stay in prayer. I often ask God, not only to bless me, but to also keep me from forgetting what made me a good man in the first place. To those who may be puzzled by this last statement I have this to say. Sometimes when we go through bad relationship, divorces or anything that may cause us pain, we tend to loose ourselves and forget who we were before we got in those terrible situations. As an example to this I offer some of my past to help you get an better understanding on what I mean. Before my divorce and even before I met my ex-wife, I was supper confident (almost to the point that I was arrogant). There was nothing  that anyone could say or do to get in my way, when it came to becoming successful. What ever I wanted I went after it and what ever I thought I needed, I devised a plan to make it happen. I was very aggressive not only with my career, but also with my health. I worked out five days a week, stay on top of all the news and read everything I could so that I could increase in  knowledge. But as you know if you have ever experienced being in a bad relationship or marriage, it can be very easy too loose focus. My mother would always say to me as a youth, when you are looking for a mate, make sure she's is your equal. In other words have they have the  same goals or some of your  thoughts . Because if you make a mistake and chose the wrong mate, then the out come may be disastrous. From that experience along, I have learned that one should be very careful when choosing a mate or when venturing out into unfamiliar territory. That is when prayer becomes very important , because without God in your life. Life can be, extremely  difficult and it will hardly ever be fair.

 If you happen to be reading this take some good and free advice. Learn from your mistakes and  then do your best not to repeat them. Take advantage of every opportunity from your finances to your personal life, because God opens doors and answer prayers. And the best advice I can give to both the young and the old, never sell your soul . What I mean by this is if you happen to be a good person, with good ideals, good intentions, never let anyone or anybody change who you are. Only change for the better and only change for God. If someone or a certain situation have changed you, pray , then ask God to restore you to your former self and when you do he will change you then make you even better than you were before. If you consult God first, life will still be hard, but you will be better equipped to handle life even when its not fair. One must never forget that, Life Is Hard But Its Fair!
Have a blessed night,

Psalm 51:12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation; and uphold me with your free spirit.
Psalm 54:4 Surely God is my help; the Lord is the one who sustains me.

Something Old And Something New

With spring time coming soon and when winter time is almost over, I know there will be a lot of people cleaning their homes (Down south we call it spring cleaning), weeding out the flower beds, fertilizing the lawns and cleaning out the closets. Things of last year will either be put away in storage or be given away. As I think about my childhood, I often reflect on how my mother waited on this time of the year to do her spring cleaning and to get rid of the old clothes, unused or old things, that each of the family members had no use for. Also my father would go to the garage, clean out the storage shed and put what ever he couldn't use in to the trash. He would say to me," Son this is a New Year, spring time, things of the past are no more and its time for new beginnings". He would smile and say, This is a time where you forget about your past failures, mistakes or sins and start a new life or have new beginnings. Instead learn from them and allow your mistakes to help you grow in to the man you will be in the future.In other words my son, now that you know better, you should do better. Do your best not to repeat or make the same mistakes this time around.

 After he told me this I asked my father a question that made him laugh. I asked him did he or my mother ever make mistakes? He laughed so hard that I thought he was going to have a heart attack(Just kidding. smile). Then he smiled and said , "Son more than you know". He went on to say, that all men or women make mistakes and none are perfect. But there is a time in every man or woman's life when there will be a need to replace something that's old, with something that's new. The only thing that can not ever be replaced is God. What my father meant by these last few statements, is that all men or women have to learn when to let go of things of the past and move on. Many of us still hold grudges and refuse to let go of the anger or hate we feel for someone who has wronged us. Some may want to retaliate or get back at the ones who have hurt them. So they store up their hate, then pile them on top of their burdens, troubles or pain. They keep these feelings deep inside, without realizing that those very same feelings or thoughts, are the ones that keep them from being blessed or happy . That is why it is so important to forgive, then let God handle your burdens or pains. Replace those old feeling with something new, like the joy of Jesus!Then try living again and being happy! Let Gods light shine brightly in you. If you happen to be reading this, take time to think about you own life and ask yourself these questions. What would happen if I release all of my troubles, heartaches and pain? What kind of life would I have if it were stress free? What would my life be like if I let go of the things in my past and moved forward? I have an easy answer for those questions, if you trusted God more and put your burdens in his hands, then you would be free. You would be able to smile like a true christen, that has been blessed. All of your dream, desires would come to a real reality. Because when you release your burdens and trust God., your praises would go up and your blessings will come down. Then my friend or friends, you would have gotten rid of something old then replaced it with something new. Something Old And Something New!
May God bless you always,
Daniel 2:23 I thank you, and praise you, O you God of my fathers, who have given me wisdom and might, and have made known to me now what we desired of you: for you have now made known to us the king's matter
Psalm 55:22 Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.


Have you ever reached a point in your life when you are just plain  tired? Tired of struggling, tired of the games,tired of all the problems, tired of the lies, tired of the deceit and just plain tired of all the bad or terrible things the world has to offer? Are you tired of your family, friends and co- workers rumors or lies ?This is when you want to give up and say," Lord why am I having so much bad luck or why me Lord?Then you may say Lord when will my problems, troubles or my struggles end? When will I find a man or woman that will love me for me and stop playing games with my mind body or heart? You may say God I am willing to change if you just show me the way. This is when in a dream or in your thoughts that God reveals to you all that you have been through, just to remind you of why you went through all those things.
Most of the time our struggles, our pain or our suffering are because we fail too head Gods warnings and sometimes rejected his blessings. Some of us even question if these blessings, are from God ,despite the fact that he is only giving us what we asked for.We take for granted that our Father in Heaven, actually listens to us or hears our prayers. That's why its so very important to be careful when we pray ,because it a good chance we just may get what we prayed for. Many times we blow our chance or our blessings out of fear.What some of us seem to forget is that life is about taking risk or chances. The old saying is, "Nothing fails without a try". If we trust God more then we will succeed and failure is only a just a step toward success.Giving up is not an action that God is happy with and there is no room in Heaven, for those who have little faith or for those who quit. All of Gods Saints have struggled in life, but the one quality they all had was that they, there never gave up no matter how hard things got and in the end they all succeeded. Even Jesus himself endured pain, suffering, heart breaks, but he never gave up and never gave up on us. Jesus himself was tempted and tested by the devil for forty days and forty nights, but never let Satan break him. That is why he died on the cross so that we may have a chance at eternal life.
If you happen to be married, have a family, have a chance at real happiness or have a great opportunity at your door steps, don't give up! Don't allow fear or anyone else get in the way of your dreams or blessings. Always remember failure is just another step toward success and if you believe, trust, then have faith, then all things are possible through God. When God opens doors,there are many blessings behind them. But it does not mean, that there will not be trails ,tribulations and periods of failure, because we all will be tested. But if you remain faithful and fearing only him, then your marriage, your family and your career will be a success and God will get all the glory. If you are really tired and want your life to change for the better. Then give all your burdens, problems, pains and troubles to him. Then your days of being tired and stressed will be a thing of the past. Your life will be filled with joy and you will have a smile that will light up any room. The light of Jesus will shine through you because, all of your burdens will be lifted. Then one thought should come to your mind after you realize that you have just been blessed. Thank you Jesus for freeing me when I had no one else to turn to only you were there. Praise God!
Have a wonderful day and be blessed,
1 Corinthians 15:57 But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

The Faithful And The Unfaithful

Both men and women tend to blame each other when it comes to infidelity. When it comes to a man they are considered dogs and male whores for having an affair or when cheating on their spouses. Most women who cheat tend to blame the male for their actions and use their reasoning for cheating they also blame the male for their actions. But the real question most people would like to know is who really is the blame? Is it the males fault when he commits adultery or is it the females fault? Is there ever a real reason to cheat? Is it okay to have an affair, just because your spouse or ex-spouse chooses to cheat on you? Is pay back a practice that God our Father in heaven agrees with? Or the real question like my 16 year old son would say,( Daddy lets be real) Is why do people cheat or have affairs? Is it because of lust or is it because they have a serious problem that needs to be taken care of? Being that I have been on both sides of the fence when it comes to this issue, I began to study what made me cheat and also how did I feel when I was cheated on. As I write this and share my thoughts with the rest of the world, I know many questions may come to mind. One is why would a man who confesses to serving God cheat or even commit sin? Well the easy answer to these questions is, because I have not always been saved and another real or truthful answer is because I am still a sinner, therefore not perfect. But as I think about my own behavior and examine why I did what I knew was wrong, I would have to say at that time it was lust. Being a young man at the time, I did not take time to think about the consequences of my actions.So as a young man being on his own for the very first time, I really did not understand what was right or what was wrong. Yes, I was always raised to respect women and also to follow the rules but the fact is I had no fear , nor did I know what would be the consequences for doing something so wrong. As I think about my past, I realize that I was missing something very important in my life . Yes, I was blessed to be raised by two very wise God-fearing parents, but the real knowledge that I got from them both did not kick in until my latter years. But what was missing was my relationship with God the Father and with his son Jesus Christ. Yes, I knew of God and his son Jesus, but I really did not know them. Even though I attended church with my parents, I did not understand why it was so important not to sin. It wasn't until  I found Jesus, that I realized the consequences for my actions. After I found Jesus and started to make changes in my life I became faithful and was latter cheated on myself. Some might find that ironic, but I find it refreshing. Why you may ask? Well it makes me remember some of the old sayings that my mother used to say. She would say; What comes around goes around, then you would also say; Be careful how you treat someone for God watches high and God watches low. Now after I have been both faithful and unfaithful, I realize that I should have paid attention to those valuable lessons I learn from my parents and from the sermons I ignored while in church as a youth. Now as an older adult I now realize that there is a God and I also have a relationship with him. I fear him because I know if I do something wrong, he will punish me like any good father would. I respect him and I also want to please him. To those who choose to be unfaithful, know this you will pay a high price for your actions. You will suffer beyond belief and wish for the day that you can go back and avoid that bad behavior. To those who remain faithful even while you are being wronged or mistreated, your blessings await you and our Father in Heaven is very pleased. So keep your head up and do not worry about people who choose to be unfaithful. For vengeance is the Lords and God watches high and God watches low. Even in darkness none could hide their actions from the one who has created everything.
Be blessed,
Proverbs 14:14 The unfaithful will be repaid for his own ways; likewise a good man will be rewarded for his ways
Proverbs 23:28 Yes, she lies in wait like a robber, and increases the unfaithful among men

Our Beginnings

By the blessing of our Father In Heaven and our Lord Jesus Christ, all were created through them. Its easy to acknowledge that there are many races and many different cultures.( John 1:1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.) Also its very easy to acknowledge that everyone has a different back grounds and everyone was raised differently. But there are two main things that we all have in common. One ,we are all God children's created by him through generation's from the mother of us all Eve. Second, Gods son Jesus died on the cross and sacrifice himself for all of us to have a chance at going to Heaven. God loves us all and does not see color or race, he only see what"s in our hearts. That's why I think it is so important that we all know where we come from and where we got our true beginnings. My mother used to always say," Son you do not know who you are , until you know where you come from". That is why she always reminded me of our rich history and what sacrifice's our ancestors made on our behalf so that we would be free. But she also reminded me of the greatest sacrifice of them all , which is Gods son Jesus, the King of Kings when he gave his life for all generations to come ,so that each of us would have a chance at ever lasting life.( John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.)
When I think of that great sacrifice I know, that God loves me and he also loves all of his children. To sacrifice one to save so many, that in it self is a powerful  and profound statement. Who wouldn't want to serve a God, that has so much love and compassion for his children? That is why people should pick up their Bibles and read Gods word. From the beginning to the end there is something there, that will enrich all who take heed to his words. In the Bible it will tell you of man"s very rich history. It will tell you of our failures, our many sins and of how each or every time man seemed to be close to destruction, God step right on in then saved us. So if you want to move forward in your life and you want a new beginning. Start it by serving Gods son  Jesus and learn where you came from .Learn about who created you, then learn your true purpose and live the way our Father in Heaven intended on you living. Also learn that even though the world is filled with evil you will forever be blessed by the word of God.(Hebrews 4:12  For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.)So that your life will be abundantly blessed for as long as you live.
Have a blessed week in Christ,
Revelation 4:11 "You are worthy, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honor and power, for you created all things, and by your will they were created and have their being."

Nehemiah 9:6 You alone are the LORD. You made the heavens, even the highest heavens, and all their starry host, the earth and all that is on it, the seas and all that is in them. You give life to everything, and the multitudes of heaven worship you.

Touched By Jesus

We all live in a world that's so high tech and one that's been constantly influenced by the media ,social networks or celebrities. Today, most of us have touchscreen cell phones, smart devices , tablets, televisions, appliance's, computers and in the very near future touch screens in our automobiles. But instead of having touch screen gadget's, there are so many people in the world that really need to be healed or touched by Jesus! Instead of using My Space, Tagged , Twitter, Face Book or any other social network, people should read their bibles and allow God our Father in Heaven to touch their hearts or minds! Instead of using search engines or smart phones to help them find a solution to their problems or troubles, they should  instead seek the face of God and allow the Holy Ghost or the spirit of the Lord to touch their hearts or minds!

 When we are lacking faith or when our spirits has been crushed or low , all should seek refuge in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ! Then call on the mighty name of Jesus! For he is a healer, a provider and has everything necessary to give the believer to over come any obstacle in this every changing world. If you are reading this today allow God, not mans material things give you confidence and strength so that you could claim your place in His Kingdom. For God our Father in Heaven is the Creator of all things and all things are possible through his son Jesus. The things of man are only borrowed or temporary and should  be never treasured. One should only treasure love or knowledge, for they are more precious than any amount of money, gold or silver and therefore they are priceless. For your knowledge or your relationship with the Father will only lead you into Heaven and your time on Earth will be filled with countless blessings. If you chose to embrace Gods son, Jesus , then you are already saved.( Philippians 3:3 For it is we who are the circumcision, we who serve God by his Spirit, who boast in Christ Jesus, and who put no confidence in the flesh)Today or tonight allow yourself to be touched by Jesus and your life will be forever changed. Today or tonight instead of treasuring your I-phone, I- pad , H.T.C., Note, Samsung or your blackberry, treasure the Bible Gods written and spoken word. Because in it you will  have the key to ever lasting life and it can touch you in ways that man or woman never can. Instead of touching items made by man, allow your heart and your soul to be touched by the son of God and Touched By Jesus.
Be blessed,
Psalm 51:12 Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me [with thy] free spirit.
Hebrews 3:1
Therefore, holy brothers and sisters, who share in the heavenly calling, fix your thoughts on Jesus, whom we acknowledge as our apostle and high priest.

The Cross

When I look into the world I see so much evil and so much pain. It seems everyday the devil is working hard to destroy marriages, break up family's, ruin friendships and take away peoples joy.The devil seems to have a lot of people helping his cause. He has ex-husbands and ex-wives spreading untruths, lies and some are even committing murders. He has family members being envious, jealous and hateful even to their own children or spouses. They are not happy unless their spouses or children are suffering or need them for help.These family member are the ones who talk about about their children, their mother, their father and some will even stoop so low that they will talk about their own grandparents. The devil has been real busy and will not stop until the people of God start serving and believing in only him. When I think about all the bad that's going on in the world today, all I have to do is think about someone very special who died on the cross for you and I. His name is Jesus! Thank God for the one who can make the devil hide and grant me wisdom to have both peace and space. How do I do achieve peace and rid myself of the devil you may ask? Well I look to the cross and seek my salvation. When I am trouble or even feel the presence of evil or the devil, I invoke the name of Jesus and Satan flees. If you are wearing a cross or even have one in your home, remember this ,it is more than jewelry or even decoration. Its is a symbol and a reminder of that great sacrifice, when Jesus Christ was crucified , then bled so that we all may live and be forgiven for our future or past sins. God loves you and I . He wants all of us to rebuke the devil, to turn away from evil, to have faith when times are hard and to trust him to get us all through it. So when there are times ,when there seems to be no hope and you need an answer to your prayers. Look to your cross, then think about the great sacrifice that Gods son Jesus made on our behalf's. Because after that great sacrifice, Jesus Christ rose from the dead three days latter. He had victory over the devil and he conquered death. Our Father in Heaven and his son Jesus Christ has all power in their hands. They will deliver all who are faithful and true ,from the clutches of the devil or evil. So never loose faith and all way hold on to the cross.
Be blessed,
Philippians 2:8
And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death--even death on a cross!
 Corinthians 8:9 For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though He was rich, yet for your sake He became poor, so that you through His poverty might become rich.

The Point Of No Return

As a child I used to despise my parents because I thought that they were very strict and I also thought at the time that they were too hard on me and my brothers or sisters. My father was a man that loved the military and he raise his family, just like a drill sergeant would preside over his troops. My mother was a college professor that believed without an education , there would be no way you could make it in the world. They both worked very hard to provide for six children(three boys and three girls) In those days things were hard, because my father used to work 12 hours a day and my mother also worked the same amount of hours, while trying to raised and educate her six children. Both my mother and father were a team , they hardly ever argued or disagreed when it came to discipline the children. My parents were not the loving type of people that hugged their children(Even though the told us they loved us) or showed any type of affection. They had certain rules that they expected the children to follow and if we broke the rules then we were punished for our mistakes. My father used to always say to me, son you would rather me beat on you or discipline you ,then the people on the outside world. He would say Chuck, you may think you have it hard here, because of my rules, but in the outside world what I call rules are laws. If you happen to break the law you will be punish far more severely than I could ever punish you. I am trying to prepare you, your brothers and sisters for the outside world, because its hard out there. If you get yourself in some trouble, break the law, then there may be a time that there is nothing your mother and I can do to help you. That is what I call the point of no return, its a place where if you are not careful, only God can deliver you from it.

 My brothers and sisters are now all adults. My father and mother did a wonderful job raising six children getting all of us through high school and most of us through college. We are all very responsible adults and never been to jail, thanks to them. Its a credit to them, to be able to raise children , then teach them very important values and also about God. If we happen to fail, it was not because of their effort or their love. I will always remember my father saying this statement to me, whenever I thought about giving up or even when I doubted myself. Son you are a Holmes and there are no quitters or failures in this family. So suck it up and act like a man. That help shape me and mold me into the man I am today. It also has helped me deal with outside pressures , that are always available in the world today. I have learned that if you do not follow the rules or break the law then you will be punished severely for it.

 You may ask, well if you never broke the law how would you know about being punished for a crime? Well my mother had a very famous saying. She would say God does not lead his people blind,even those who are blind have some of the senses that God has blessed us all with. I ask my mother what did she mean by this statement. Then she went on to say, that is why there are examples of what you should do and what you shouldn't do. If you read the paper or look at the news then you will see that's  there are plenty examples on doing the wrong thing. You will also realize that even some of us at the top of the mountain are capable of falling to the bottom of the mountain. Even those that are both rich and famous,can reach a point in there lives, where they can not recover. When most people get themselves in trouble, they tend to not care,because they feel that they are untouchable or feel that the law does not apply to them. These people do not fear or know God, because if they did they would know that he is watching them. I have often heard people who commit crimes or commit adultery say these words,"Well I have not been caught yet".I would say to myself, "yes you said the key word yet! Because vengeance is God and he sees you when others do not".A word of advice, do not wait until you go to prison or wait until you ruin your life or relationship before you find God. Get to learn and build a relationship with him now, because if you do, he will make your path ways straight and you will always be blessed. Never take the path of a point of no return.
Have a blessed night,
Luke 14:11
For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted."
Luke 18:14
"I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted."
James 4:7
Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
James 4:10
Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up

When The Birds Leave The Nest

As a child, I was blessed. I was raise by two very loving, caring, understanding and most of all wise parents. They did everything in their power to make sure that my brothers, sisters or I were fed, educated and cared for. They were not only our parents, but also our mentors. They did a great job preparing us for the outside world. As my father would say," Son your mother and I, did everything a parent is obligated to do." We raised you into a healthy and educated young man." "But there is one thing we could never give you and that's wisdom. For that my son, you will have to get that on your own." Now its time you learn what grown ups do and that's survive. When my parents decided that I was old enough, they allowed me to leave the nest. Although they were worried, when I left home they then had to do what all parents must do at that time. Which is too always put their faith and trust in God, then prayed that I would be okay. They counted on their many years of rearing me and preparing me for the outside world.
 I will always remember the words my father said to me when I left the house on that day. He would say, "Charles remember everything I taught you, but also remember all your failures". Because there will be times in your life where everything seems perfect and then you fail. That's when you draw from your past experiences and do what it takes to succeed. That my son is how the wise become wise. They learn from their trials and their tribulations. They weather the storms and survive to live another day. He would also say the wise never give up and when in doubt they always put their trust in the one that has created us all," our Father in Heaven". To those who are blessed to read this take some sound and free advice. Learn something new everyday. Never take anything for granted. Always keep an open mind. Walk in to every door that God has prepared you for. Also you can learn something new, from just about anyone. Be very careful when you are talking to people, because they just may be Gods, Angels in disguised, trying to help you.  Become wise so that you can help others or to prepare your children when they decide to leave home or the nest.
May God bless you all,

Proverbs 21:11 When the scorner is punished, the simple is made wise: and when the wise is instructed, he receives knowledge.Proverbs 8:32 "Now then, my sons, listen to me; blessed are those who keep my ways.
Proverbs 8:34 Blessed is the man who listens to me, watching daily at my doors, waiting at my doorway.

God Knows

God Our Father in Heaven, love us all and is waiting to bless us. I often hear people say, that when they have a problems, troubles in their relationships, marriages or in need of help ,they would say, "that they would have to wait on God". Well I think they have that backwards, because God is everywhere and knows all things. He knows your wants and your desires. He knows when you are in trouble, he knows when you are stressed, he also knows when you need help, wisdom or advice and God is always there for you.There is not a place on Earth that man can hide from God. For God our Father in Heaven knows all and sees all. God is not blind to our troubles and if we prayed more he will surly guide those who pray. God will never leave us no matter what we do and when in need ,all we have to do is ask and then it will be granted. Not on our time, but Gods time. God is always on time and God is good all the time. If you need God, you do not have to look far, because he is right there with you.God our Father in Heaven is always watching over you and will be there to protect you, if you just ask him too. Waiting on you to accept his son Jesus Christ, as your Lord and Savior. When you do, then you will enter a better world, where God blesses you more and you will want for nothing.
  If you are in need of a blessing open up your eyes and read the Bible. Open up you heart because God wants to show you true love. Open up your mind so God can show you, your true purpose.On your journey in Christ always remember this statement ,"God will not bless a man or woman with a close mind, heart or door, so open yourself up to him". You say you are waiting on God for an answer, well I think not because , God our Father in Heaven is waiting on you.
Have a great day!

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

The Complicated Thing Called Love

Of all the things on this planet called Earth, love happens to be  the most complicated subject to figure out. Since the beginning of time, both men and women have constantly asked themselves a series of questions like; What is it that men or women really want? Why are men or women so difficult or so hard to get alone with ? Why are men or women so moody? Why can't men or women stay loyal? Or where are all of the good men or women? Where is the man or woman that God has created especially for me? Where is my soul mate? Or the main question that we all ask is why is love so complicated? Why does love have to hurt or cause me pain? These are just some of the questions most people ask while being in love. If you ever been in love and thought hard about it, you will realize that love is a very powerful thing. Love is so powerful it can make both men or women do things that they never thought they would do. Love can make us all go to extensive lengths just to acquire true love. Both men or women would pay just for a chance at finding true love.  Many have been known to change religions, leave their family or friends, even quit their jobs for a chance at true love. The power of love is so great, that many men or women would travel to the ends of the Earth just to find love. That is why millions of people world wide are searching for the soul mates over the internet,through personnel websites and social networks.  Even the most powerful, wealthy men and women have a hard time finding true love. Even in prayer most would ask God himself to send them a man or woman that will love them for a lifetime. That is why when relationships or marriages fails it very heartbreaking .So heartbreaking that it crushes the spirit and make most decide to just give up on love. I have also heard both men and women say these very words, Maybe I am meant to be alone or maybe God does not want me to marry or to be happy. To those people I have one thing to say, God loves you and he wants you to be happy. God has created a special someone for each of his creations. But the main  question that most people are afraid to ask is, "Why is true love so hard to find"  or where or who is my soul mate ? After some careful study , a lot of reading, research and experience of my own, I think I have found out the reason why people have a hard time finding true love.

One of the reason why most men or women have a hard time coming together or finding their soul mates is because of the existing barriers, that both men or women have put between each other. In some cases some may think that their spouse has to be a certain race, size or religion to qualify to be their mate. Also both men and women need to do allot of soul searching, then look into the mirror. Because most people do not realize that when it comes to dating or love they do not have a clue,not even christians.
 In most cases both men and women do not really know their roles or what God expects from them when it comes to love. One of the main reasons that I have found is first men and women have to Understand their roles before looking for a spouse or mate. Men have to know what God expects from them before they seek a wife and women have to know what's expected of them before they enter into a relationship or marriage. Another thing that I have found to be true especially from men, is that most do not know what to look for when seeking a mate. In the old days men often looked for women that resemble their mothers , but in today's time both men and women are influence by the media and television. I was once told by a very wise woman, that in order to find the perfect mate, you must  first become the perfect match for what you seek. In other words before you can say you want a good man or woman, you have to be what you seek. God never intended on man or woman being alone, that is the main reason God created Adam and latter created Eve. But the question of today is why is it that both men and women have a hard time finding, then keeping their soul mates? The reason I have found is because in some cases men or women do not know or appreciate their spouses worth. For those who may question what I just wrote or have a hard understanding , what I mean by this last statement  I have a couple of questions to ask you. (1) Your spouse  or the person you are dating, what do they really mean to you? (2) Are you willing to make the necessary sacrifices to make the relationship or marriage work? (3) Don't you realize that the person you are dating or married to is a direct reflection of yourself? These three questions can not be answered with just a plain yes. These are questions that take some deep thinking. But in simple terms the person you are married to, the man or woman you love, should be a part of you. Which means to me is, when they cry, you cry, when they  hurt ,you hurt when something bothers them, it should also bother you . The person you love, should be loved just as you would love yourself. That is why my mother always used to say, "If you have no love for yourself, there is no way you should be in position to love someone else". "Because if you do not love yourself or care about your own needs, then how can you be qualified to care for someone else's"? Love wouldn't be that complicated if we first learned how to love ourselves. And for those who do love themselves I have this to say, what ever you do for yourself, should be good enough for your spouse or mate. Give your husband or wife the same treatment or respect that you would expect from others. Love has no place for people that are selfish , overbearing, dominate or cruel. Like my mother used to always say treat people the way you want to be treated and love the one you would love as you would love yourself. Remember who ever you give your heart to, is a part of you and if you love them its not really that complicated. Love them for who they are, forgive them as you would expect them to forgive you and always remember this God first created man, then out of all of God creations, God took man , then created something new woman. Woman was created for man. When I think about this past statement, I just say wow! God loved man so much that he created something just for him. Men ask yourself this question, is there anything else in the world more beautiful then a woman? I think you will find out of all of God creations man was Gods favorite, why do you think he has given us so many chances? God loves us and we should love, then honor him always. We should all start as men or women, loving, respecting , then treating each other like kings or queens, because that is who we are. We heirs to the throne and we all need to start acting like it.
Have a blessed day,
Acts 20:32 "Now I commit you to God and to the word of his grace, which can build you up and give you an inheritance among all those who are sanctified.

Romans 8:17
And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.

Power of the spoken Word.

Did you know that you have power when you speak? In the bible Its says," In the beginning there was God and with God was the Word. Also the Bible says," You can speak thing into existence ". That means what you say can and will become possible. That's why we all have to be very careful when we speak  or when we say things, because when we speak our words or our  thoughts may  become seeds that are soon to grow. Words have been known to start wars, to break up marriages, to start rumors, to crush people egos, ruin friendships, break up families and the list goes on and on. But if you use wisdom , think things out and  then speak positive  in the end  you can or will get positive results. When talking to your mate , your children or your family members speak very carefully and always remember that they have feelings.  Especially when becoming angry, because that is when most of us loose control then say harmful words ,that can or scar a person for lifetime. Once a word is spoken it can never be taken back and it will remain in a person memory forever.
 As a Christian male, I know that as a friend or as an advisor that my words have the power to hurt, to heal,to inspire, to re-shape ,to destroy , to bring happiness, to bring sadness, stress and can even cause if spoken to the wrong person health problems. As a father or a family member I know that those very same words will have the same effect on them, as one would get from a relationship. There is an old saying that my late grandmother used to say which is," If you can't say nothing nice, then don't say anything at all ". She would go on to say," Baby we all  get angry sometimes, but as a mature man or woman each of us should have control over our emotions. And then she would go on to always think before we speak. She would go on to say," The devil loves it when we become mad or angry, because he is the mist of it and he enjoys causing confusion. Its his job to seek or destroy, all families, marriages and relationships. If you allow him, he will break up your marriage, destroy your friendships and ruin your family for a lifetime.
To those who are blessed enough to read this, when angry go into another room, then  say this simple prayer. Father God , I am angry, do not allow the devil the chance to guide my words, to influence my actions or decisions. Please take away these awful feelings and guide me with your wisdom. Don't allow the devil destroy my marriage, my family or to re-shape my children. Father guide me, change my heart and give me the right words to express my feelings in a Godly manner. With your love, your forgiveness, your strength, your wisdom , I know I can say  or express myself in the right way and in the christian way. In  Jesus name, we pray. Amen. With this prayer I know that, you will speak the right words and the positive spoken words will become a blessing to you and glorify our Father God in Heaven.
Have a wonderful night and be blessed,
 Samuel 3:18 So Samuel told him everything, hiding nothing from him. Then Eli said, "He is the LORD; let him do what is good in his eyes."

More Than I Can Bare

One of life greatest transitions is growing old, change and death. As I think about my own life, there came a time when I just had to accept a few facts. One I was getting older and it didn't matter what happen in my past, there was no way I could correct or fix the problems or mistakes of my past. I also had to realize that most of my problems were self inflicted or avoidable and if only I heeded God warnings then I wouldn't have been in those positions in the first place. Another thing I have realized that when our children grow up in to adults and there is a time when you just have to let go, then let God care for them. This past sentence reminds me of a statement my mother used to say, It will be a time when the chicks grow up into birds, then they will have to leave the nest.  Its funny how fast they grow up and also how fast the years pass by. Now my children or as my mother would call them ,"My babies", are now grown up with children of their own. As my mother would say life goes on, so never take anything for granted especially your time, because its  more valuable than gold  and priceless. But the main thing I have realized that without God in my life, there would be no way I could have survived all of my  trials , tribulations or troubles. There have been times in my life when life itself was so unbearable that I thought about giving up(But that only lasted a second). That is when my faith kicked in and  then I prayed. I asked God to help me protect me then guide me through my storms, because at that time my life was out of control.  I would say," Lord this is more than I can bare, please help me and show me the way out. Then just like God always does, he provides those who have faith, those who trust him and believe in him a way out.
 I was asked once by a person who's faith was tested when he lost his daughter due to illness, Charles why does God allow good people to die or suffer?" Then he went on to say why do the young or those with so much potential die so early? He would go on to say, "Charles I do not know how I got over it or through it ! It was unbearable! Then I looked at him then said," God got you through it and it was her time to go". To those who are blessed to read this, God loves you. Even in times when life is hard, cruel and even when it seems unbearable. Even when you loose a love one due to death. God hears our prayers, he understands how it feels to loose someone close to him. He also know how it feels to suffer. How you may ask? How can the almighty God feel pain? Well when Gods son Jesus was beaten, hung on the cross , then God felt pain. It was his only son and it hurt him to see him suffer. God also feels pain when we hurt or when we feel pain, because each and everyone of us is his children.  Also giving up on your life, your family, your spouse or even your children are not an option. Never give up, because giving up proves you lack real faith. The old saying is faith without works is just, like not believing in God. Trust God to guide you through your storms and be a witness to tell others. When life seems to be more than you can bare then turn your life over to Jesus, then your life will never be the same again. I will always remember what my late grandmother always used say, God will never put on you, More Than You Can Bare.
Be blessed,
Isaiah 43:10 "You are my witnesses," declares the LORD, "and my servant whom I have chosen, so that you may know and believe me and understand that I am he. Before me no god was formed, nor will there be one after me.

Right Or Wrong

While living life each person will be presented with two types of ways to live their life. Many have the choice to either to live the right way or the wrong way.The question is are you living your life in the way, that pleases God or the wrong way that pleases the devil? The easy way to determine if you are living the right way or wrong way, is by your lifestyle. In today's society there are many types of ways a person can chose to live their life.Those ways are determine by the person or the persons living it and can be influenced by the media, the person or the persons that raised them or by the persons own thoughts or like we say it down south by our own minds. But in the Bible God only acknowledges only two, right or wrong. God only acknowledges people who follow the law or his word and those who do not follow law or break his commandments , then sin.

 Thanks to my parents, I quickly learned the difference between right and wrong. Both my father and mother were very strict and were very quick to discipline me when I was wrong. As a child I never understood why my parents were so hard on me, but now as an adult I am forever grateful to them for being that way. Why you ask? Well as a child God blessed me at an early age to witness those were spoiled or those that were left along to think for themselves. Those people happen to be two of my very best friends one of them is no longer with us and the other is in jail. As I think about my two very good friends, I often think about how much they missed their parents giving them something that they lacked and needed, which was their parents love.

 That is why I was grateful to my parents, because they made me work for everything I got and even though they were strict, they never let me forget how much they loved me. In today's world many equate love , with money,buying gifts, possessing material things, or with sex. Even though these things may be very important to some, in Gods world those things do not matter at all. You see is easy to determine if you are living a life that pleases God. Because a child of God has a life that's free of stress,drama and bad luck has no room to breath in a blessed persons life. But its also very easy to spot someone who is living in a way that doesn't please God. Even though they may posses many material things and may seem happy on the outside but on the inside they are lost. Because a person that is not living right or a person that is rich will never have peace. Drama, stress or pain is always present in their lives. Also a person that doesn't live right always have to fear the wrath of God, because of their bad choices. All of us through out our lifetimes have to make many important decisions in our lives, but the most important decision of all is either to live our life the right way that pleases God or the wrong way that pleases the flesh or the devil. Which will you chose? Right or Wrong.
Have a blessed night,

Friday, May 20, 2011

In The Face Of Evil

 One of the main obstacles many of us face everyday is dealing with the enemy(the devil) or with people like him who happen to be evil, envious, jealous, trash talking and back stabbing people. Lets face it there are a lot of judgmental or misguided evil people in the world and many of them really enjoy being that way. It seems today, being good, God-fearing or even just someone trying to earn an honest living is like being a minority. Why would I make a statement like this? Look at the world today and while you are taking your time observing, haven't you notice the lifestyles people now embracing? Its a shame to say, but there is a worldwide movement  that's trying to destroy or discredit the words of God. Then there are others that are trying to change or manipulate Gods own word in order to please man or their own flesh. Its also sad to say that even when you are on your job trying to earn an honest living, you have to deal with evil people like co-workers. Some of those people believe it or not claim to be christian or God fearing people like yourself. Most of these people spread lies,start rumors, embrace hate and when you are not around they are busy talking about you behind your back. What's funny to me some of these people clam to be your most trusted friends, co-workers or relatives and in most cases they are the main ones trying to tear you down. Its enough to make anyone say, help me Jesus! In The Face Of Evil!

 Even a routine trip to your favorite grocery store or mall can be a challenge within itself. Why? Because even there evil exist. One may have to be on the look out for a criminal that may be stalking you to take your hard earned money or one of your material possessions. Even at home these days its hard to avoid or escape evil. There some, may face an ungrateful child, a cheating  husband or wife  and when they get there they may have to argue, fuss or fight. If that isn't enough there is always a problem to solve that is not of their own. I was once asked a series of questions by a friend of mine, because she was having a hard time. How do I cope in a world where almost everyone is evil or embracing lifestyles that doesn't please God? How do I remain strong when there are so many people out there trying to tear me down? How do I avoid temptation when I am lonely or have no one to love or care for me? What do I do when people that have lifestyles, that make me uncomfortable approach me? How do I keep myself from becoming just like everyone else? What do I do when I am In The Face Of Evil? The easy answer to all these questions is to seek God and read your Bible. Draw your strength from him for the word says," Great strength comes from faith in God Zechariah 12:5". Even Jesus himself, Gods only son, had to face evil daily , so he often prayed and drew strength from his father. When the devil tried to lure Jesus into sin by temptation , he leaned on his fathers word , then rejected him. Jesus son of God, followed his Fathers instructions and never allowed the sins of the world to overtake him. That is what we as Christians, God-fearing and good people should do. Even though the world may be cruel or evil, we should never become slaves of the world. Instead we should embrace our good side or our God-fearing side especially, In The Face Of Evil!

 To those who are blessed to read this I have some sound advice. Be aware of the world you live in and never be surprised when you are faced with evil. For it is written that the devil is the prince of the earth and he knows his day are numbered. His job is to seek and destroy. And he will use anybody to for his own purpose. We also need to learn what the face of evil looks like and learn how to deal with it when we face it. So take my advice when someone evil approaches you or tries to tear you down. Pray without fail, then know that the battle you face is not yours and the people who try to hard tear you down will have to face the wrath of God. Be confident for you are a child of God and God takes care of those who love him. Be patient for those who wait on the Lord will be forever blessed. Then forgive those who have sinned against you and place all of your burdens or troubles into the hands of the Lord. For God our Father in Heaven has all power and there is none greater than he that has created us.Your struggle is now over because God our Father in Heaven always answers prayers and always keeps his promises. When faced with evil all that one has to say, "The devil is a lie and  I rebuke you in the mighty name of  Jesus!" Then the devil shall flee and those who follow him or his ways will leave you alone forever. A word or verses from the bible a day, shall keep those who are evil and the devil away. In The Face Of Evil!
 Be blessed,
Romans 6:17 But thanks be to God that, though you used to be slaves to sin, you wholeheartedly obeyed the form of teaching to which you were entrusted.

Its So Easy To Love The Lord

As I think about my many trials and tribulations, I often reflect how on every occasion God our Father in Heaven has guided me through all storms. God has been there for me through the thick and the thin, for better or for worse. He has been there for me when I was broke, sick and even when I lost faith in myself, God our Father in Heaven has stood by me, then help me regain both my faith and strength. God our Father in Heaven saw the best in me, when everyone else around me saw the worse in me. Like my mother would say, "The love of God is unconditional, its forgiving, its understanding and his love for us will never fade away. As I think about this last statement, it reminds me of the world and the people in it. They are very unforgiving, judgmental and a man or woman's love can be influenced or changed with the change of a season. It sad to say, but most people are only committed to themselves and few of them have a hard time doing that. That is why its so easy to love the Lord, because he loves us for who we are and for what we may become. For God our Father in Heaven only sees good in us and he sees potential . God knows that with the right drive , faith and  determination anyone can do or be anything their heart desires. The reason why , is because he knows our future and he also knows our heart. God knows what man or woman does not and he also knows to the believer that our best days are ahead of us.

 In the old days, men and women used to look at each other that way. Back then it didn't matter where you came from or who you were. When men and women looked at each other they too saw potential. They would say things, like he or she has a good heart and with my help they will become great. Back in the distant past, every great man had a great woman besides them. In today's world, the great man or woman are being torn down, by the very people that were suppose to love or support them. For those who may be happen to be blessed enough to read this journal, I offer you a little advice. Before you give your heart to another human being, first try giving it to God. Gods love will never fail and he will never leave you. God loves you so much, that even when you are lonely , he will provide you with a mate. I know to some who may read this may seem surprised that God will give them a mate. Well for proof of this I give you this verse. (Genesis 2:18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”) God so loved man that he created woman. God wants every man and woman to have a suitable mate.(Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.) If we all really knew how much God loves us all, then we would love each other the way he loves us. I will never stop telling people how much I love God, because he is faithful, even when I am not. He has been there for me and helped me even when I was unworthy. That is why I love him so much and find its so easy to love the Lord I serve.
Have a blessed day,

1 Corinthians 11:9 neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.
Psalm 70:5 Yet I am poor and needy; come quickly to me, O God. You are my help and my deliverer; O LORD, do not delay

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Russian Roulette

If you are reading this I encourage you to pay close attention to these words," Do not play Russian Roulette with your life"! I know some may wonder why would I make this statement. Well in some form or fashion we all play that game with our life . If you happen to be doing drugs, gambling, cheating on your spouse, having unprotected sex or have multiple sexual partners, stealing, being dishonest, lying, drinking while driving or driving over the speed limit, breaking the law in any fashion,over eating or over drinking or even driving without your seat belts, then you are playing Russian Roulette with your life. When I think about they ways a human being can hurt or kill themselves it made me question even my own practices. I had to realize that I only have one life to live and I should cherish it. I am a person that likes to get somewhere in a hurry, so I often speed while driving. But one day God showed me what could happen to me if I continue with these reckless practices. One day I was running late for work and I needed to get there in a hurry. I ran out of my house, got into my car and stepped on it. Every street I turned on somebody was driving slow and I had to get to work because my time was running short. So I did what I always have done, I went around the car that was in front of me, before I knew it a big truck was in my path from the opposition direction. I slammed on brakes and thank God the other driver saw me. At that time I could visualize the end of my life. I know at that time God was telling me to slow down. So what if I was late, my life was stake. If you are still reading this take this too heart , your life is precious value it and take care of yourself. I am old enough to admit that I have done some stupid things and some of those things could have gotten me killed. If I would have paid attention to those warning that is out there for everyone to see, I wouldn't have almost been killed. We all make mistakes, but its the dumb ones that get us killed or keeps us from being blessed. Sometimes we can be our worse enemy. We do things just because everyone else is doing it or because it makes us feel good. But when you know what you are doing is wrong ,then there is no way you can make it right. Even if your spouse happens to cheat on you or even if somebody has hurt you. Revenge should never be something you get involved in. Its foolish or Russian Roulette a game with your own life. If you are doing anything wrong that displeases God. Stop! God is trying to tell you something. Stop playing games with your life.
Be blessed,
Titus 3:9 But avoid foolish controversies and genealogies and arguments and quarrels about the law, because these are unprofitable and useless.