Tuesday, May 24, 2011

The Complicated Thing Called Love

Of all the things on this planet called Earth, love happens to be  the most complicated subject to figure out. Since the beginning of time, both men and women have constantly asked themselves a series of questions like; What is it that men or women really want? Why are men or women so difficult or so hard to get alone with ? Why are men or women so moody? Why can't men or women stay loyal? Or where are all of the good men or women? Where is the man or woman that God has created especially for me? Where is my soul mate? Or the main question that we all ask is why is love so complicated? Why does love have to hurt or cause me pain? These are just some of the questions most people ask while being in love. If you ever been in love and thought hard about it, you will realize that love is a very powerful thing. Love is so powerful it can make both men or women do things that they never thought they would do. Love can make us all go to extensive lengths just to acquire true love. Both men or women would pay just for a chance at finding true love.  Many have been known to change religions, leave their family or friends, even quit their jobs for a chance at true love. The power of love is so great, that many men or women would travel to the ends of the Earth just to find love. That is why millions of people world wide are searching for the soul mates over the internet,through personnel websites and social networks.  Even the most powerful, wealthy men and women have a hard time finding true love. Even in prayer most would ask God himself to send them a man or woman that will love them for a lifetime. That is why when relationships or marriages fails it very heartbreaking .So heartbreaking that it crushes the spirit and make most decide to just give up on love. I have also heard both men and women say these very words, Maybe I am meant to be alone or maybe God does not want me to marry or to be happy. To those people I have one thing to say, God loves you and he wants you to be happy. God has created a special someone for each of his creations. But the main  question that most people are afraid to ask is, "Why is true love so hard to find"  or where or who is my soul mate ? After some careful study , a lot of reading, research and experience of my own, I think I have found out the reason why people have a hard time finding true love.

One of the reason why most men or women have a hard time coming together or finding their soul mates is because of the existing barriers, that both men or women have put between each other. In some cases some may think that their spouse has to be a certain race, size or religion to qualify to be their mate. Also both men and women need to do allot of soul searching, then look into the mirror. Because most people do not realize that when it comes to dating or love they do not have a clue,not even christians.
 In most cases both men and women do not really know their roles or what God expects from them when it comes to love. One of the main reasons that I have found is first men and women have to Understand their roles before looking for a spouse or mate. Men have to know what God expects from them before they seek a wife and women have to know what's expected of them before they enter into a relationship or marriage. Another thing that I have found to be true especially from men, is that most do not know what to look for when seeking a mate. In the old days men often looked for women that resemble their mothers , but in today's time both men and women are influence by the media and television. I was once told by a very wise woman, that in order to find the perfect mate, you must  first become the perfect match for what you seek. In other words before you can say you want a good man or woman, you have to be what you seek. God never intended on man or woman being alone, that is the main reason God created Adam and latter created Eve. But the question of today is why is it that both men and women have a hard time finding, then keeping their soul mates? The reason I have found is because in some cases men or women do not know or appreciate their spouses worth. For those who may question what I just wrote or have a hard understanding , what I mean by this last statement  I have a couple of questions to ask you. (1) Your spouse  or the person you are dating, what do they really mean to you? (2) Are you willing to make the necessary sacrifices to make the relationship or marriage work? (3) Don't you realize that the person you are dating or married to is a direct reflection of yourself? These three questions can not be answered with just a plain yes. These are questions that take some deep thinking. But in simple terms the person you are married to, the man or woman you love, should be a part of you. Which means to me is, when they cry, you cry, when they  hurt ,you hurt when something bothers them, it should also bother you . The person you love, should be loved just as you would love yourself. That is why my mother always used to say, "If you have no love for yourself, there is no way you should be in position to love someone else". "Because if you do not love yourself or care about your own needs, then how can you be qualified to care for someone else's"? Love wouldn't be that complicated if we first learned how to love ourselves. And for those who do love themselves I have this to say, what ever you do for yourself, should be good enough for your spouse or mate. Give your husband or wife the same treatment or respect that you would expect from others. Love has no place for people that are selfish , overbearing, dominate or cruel. Like my mother used to always say treat people the way you want to be treated and love the one you would love as you would love yourself. Remember who ever you give your heart to, is a part of you and if you love them its not really that complicated. Love them for who they are, forgive them as you would expect them to forgive you and always remember this God first created man, then out of all of God creations, God took man , then created something new woman. Woman was created for man. When I think about this past statement, I just say wow! God loved man so much that he created something just for him. Men ask yourself this question, is there anything else in the world more beautiful then a woman? I think you will find out of all of God creations man was Gods favorite, why do you think he has given us so many chances? God loves us and we should love, then honor him always. We should all start as men or women, loving, respecting , then treating each other like kings or queens, because that is who we are. We heirs to the throne and we all need to start acting like it.
Have a blessed day,
Acts 20:32 "Now I commit you to God and to the word of his grace, which can build you up and give you an inheritance among all those who are sanctified.

Romans 8:17
And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.


  1. All I can say is WOW! This was a very inspirational message, and in order to truly understand each word that you shared it definitely takes some meditation and soul searching. I find that if you have someone worth waiting for and fighting for you should never have a feeling that your love is complicated. When you become doubtful, worried, hesitant about your love life, only you make it complicated. God never said our life would be a bed of roses, he explained that tough times will arise, but always keep ourselves rooted in His word, and He will make a way out of no way. Love is a many splendid things, but is the most beautiful creation by God. In order to find true love, you must first find thy own true self and what self have to offer. Love is not a one way street, just like it takes two to tangle it takes two minds, two hearts, two spiritual beings to become one. Love is not about I, its about we. If you think only of I and what I want, what I need, yes it can become complicated, but that is not how it should be expressed. Great Blog!!!

  2. Love isn't that complicated if you let God send the mate to you.I'm praying now that he sends me my you stated, when i cry the other mate cry as well,when i hurt, the other mate hurt. when i'm happy sad,mad whatever the case maybe,the other half of me is the same.our heart beats together as one.that's a soul mate.I made a promise that the next man I give my heart too,we will not go to bed angry nor upset with each other.great blog