Friday, April 13, 2012

Is it Really Worth It?

 Many times as a writer, I never know where I may get my next thought or inspiration  from. Everyday thoughts are racing through my mind , because there seems to be so much happening in the world we live in. There is so much crime, drama, pain and everywhere you look, people are doing the craziest things.  Many people are messing up their careers, destroying  marriages,  ruining their lives by doing drugs, drinking while driving , having affairs with under age children and  others are stealing from their employers.  The craziest thing to me is when people commit crimes against children and its hard for me to phantom why anyone would hurt a child, after all they are innocent. But as you know, there are some very sick people in the world. For the ones that are not sick, they just happen to let their emotions get the best of them and that's when they get themselves into trouble, because they sometime loose control.

Which brings me to the question of the week, Is it really worth it? This question came to me after having a conversation with a co-worker of mine. To make a long story short, he has been married for over thirty years and they have raised five beautiful children together , that are now grown. They bought , then build a beautiful four bedroom home and owned their own business. But after sometime their marriage started to fall apart and each of them began to have affairs. Now the business they owned together is gone and the home they built, well they are in divorce court fighting over that property . Instead of being a loving couple, they are bitter enemies and they both claim to hate each other , so much that the wife has began to do crazy things. What type of things you may ask? Well she has been cutting up her husbands clothing, flatting his tires, busting his windshield, coming to over his job to cause disturbance and even destroying parts of the home that they are  now in court fighting over. My co-worker for his part has been cursing out his wife and he has cleaned out both of their bank accounts. He is now involved with a younger woman, who only is by his side because of money. After observing this from afar, one has to ask, Is it really worth it?

Many times in each of our lives, we will become emotionally attached to someone and fall in love. Some of us may be blessed enough to get married and while  others may take the worldly view by living together. But during these times we all make certain investments into each other, rather it be physically , emotionally and many times financially. What most of us don't realize is that if God is not the head of our lives, our marriages or our relationships,  are destine to fail. The reason why there are so many divorces, broken families or friendships and other things is because God wasn't present. We can't just go to church on Sundays and expect him to be apart of our lives, seven days a week without prayer or a personal relationship with him. God should always be in our minds, our hearts ,thoughts or prayers , even when we become angry. Why? Because only God can calm us down and have us thinking rationally. Only God can heal or fix what's broken and only he can solve the impossible. The questions I have for you today or tonight," Is do you trust him(God) with your life"?  "Is it really worth it to try living life again without him?" Is it really worth it? The true answers to those questions reside within your heart.
Have a blessed weekend,
Psalm 84:2 My soul yearns, even faints, for the courts of the LORD; my heart and my flesh cry out for the living God.

Psalm 119:81 My soul faints with longing for your salvation, but I have put my hope in your word.

Psalm 142:5 I cry to you, O LORD; I say, "You are my refuge, my portion in the land of the living."

Psalm 143:7 Answer me quickly, O LORD; my spirit fails. Do not hide your face from me or I will be like those who go down to the pit.


  1. In the day we live in it doesn't surprise me of the things that are happening in the world. The bible prepares us. It's just so disheartening when you hear that a Christian (one that is so convicted by the word) can fall into a trap that destroys them. We have to be forever praying without ceasing in these days and times. Pray that our children will not be influenced by bad company and that we as parents don't fail them. It's easy to get weak and get caught up in something that catches us off guard. So some, they truly feel in their hearts that it's worth it while their doing it, but they realize after they start feeling the affects of their actions then they realize that it wasn't worth it, but then it's too late.

  2. So many of the things you have written in this blog I have first hand experienced in my life. God has definitely made me a very strong person. Many people would have not made it through being sexual abused as a child at the age of 3, not being told who their biological dad was and will never know because my mother has died and she never told me, always being told what to do at home as a child and always treated differently, the child picked out of all the rest to always make only "A"s and even when that was done I could not have friends come over or go to school events, having to wait hand and foot on older siblings with nothing wrong with them, graduating from college and then being told by your mother and older siblings "you think you are better than us", asking family for help one time and then being drilled and demanded to show all check stubs and bills and not being given a penny yet as I got my finances in order and when they needed something I was there helping them and not looking for anything in return, getting married and thinking I have someone to love me for me and I won't have to worry about him cheating on me or ever wanting anyone else only to be disappointed and I can clearly hear him say to me after 5 years of marriage "I don't know if I want to be married or single", being talked down to at home and then to the point in front of family and friends and in public, verbal abuse non stop, family still trying to dictate their views of how my life should be run. Well after 40 plus years of having family talk about me, me let them use me and after 15 plus years in a marriage where God was not first in my family and marriage I finally had enough of allowing miserable people dictate to me, hurt my feelings and use me. I prayed, asked God for forgiveness for myself and forgave all those that hurt me directly and indirectly. I don't hate any of them just have to pray for them and let God deal with them. No matter what happened in my past I am still a loving and caring person. I still believe in God. I feel that all the bad things I endured was just a test of my faith in God. I did not turn to drugs, crime, sex, alcohol or being evil. I'm a forgiving person but I won't allow anyone into my life again and use me. I still believe in love and want to one day in God's time provide me with a man who loves God, has God first in his life, one who is committed, truthful and honest. I still believe in Christian values, family, helping others and doing those things God wants us all to do. I will not give up or give in. Thanks for your blogs. I read them and I can identify with just about all of them. Without God I would have given up but I won't. Have a blessed day.