1 John 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear: because fear has torment. He that fears is not made perfect in love.
Friday, October 21, 2011
The Role Of A Man Or Woman
A friend of mine was having problems with both her husband and her son. She couldn't get any of them to go to work or to do anything around the house. Being that I am curious by nature I asked her did she spoil the men in her life. She answered me with a big smile by saying, that she was the bread winner, she cooked, cleaned and provided for all their needs. She bragged about how much she achieved and on how she didn't really, at that time need a man to support her or help take care of her needs. But now after all those years of being the both the provider and protector of the family, she was now tired. Therefore, wanted her men in her life to take on the load. She said to me Charles, I am tired but I can't get my men too help me. Tell me what can I do to get my men too act like men? To the women that are blessed enough to read this I have some sound advice. Treat your men like children and they will in turn act like children. But if you treat them like men then they will be men. In short empower your man or the men in your life. What do I mean by empower? Well by nature men were created by God to be strong. Men for thousand of years were both providers and protectors of the family. Now that there is a new age and women can now fend, protect and provide for themselves .Now what was once the staple of the man has been taken away, by the advances of women. In some cases that has weakened the man, because now some men don't feel needed or wanted and now some have become dependent. For those who have husbands or sons, you may ask how do I reverse the cycle and make them act like men? The easy answer is to tell them you need them and let them become an active part of your life. This advice is even for the women who happen to make more money than their husbands. A man feels real good when he is empowered or needed. It gives a man confidence to know that his family or spouse needs him, so provide him a role that you both can feel comfortable with. This reminds me of something my late grandmother would always say," Oh how good it feels to be both needed or wanted". When a man looses his confidence, he in facts looses his soul. Its like a caged Lion that was once in the wild a great hunter. But now that you have caged him you took away his ability to hunt and now he has becomes helpless. Men since the beginning of time were made to be the head of the household and were created to be strong. If you take away a mans strength then he becomes a shell of a man and something else. That is not what God meant or intended when he created man. I know some women that may read this may take issue with what I just wrote. Some of you may say time has changed and its the time of the woman. My question to those who may question my thoughts is, "Do you really believe God is satisfied with the reverse roles of the man or the woman of today"? In the beginning of time God very first creation besides the animals was man and he created woman for man to be one . Malachi 2:15 Has not [the LORD] made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. Gods word is Gods word and who has the right to question his wisdom? After all God did create both the man and the woman. Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. Both the man and the woman have their roles when it comes to a relationship or family. Just because one happens to make more than the other doesn't mean those roles should change or be in reverse.