Saturday, June 22, 2013

Don't Take It Personal

As a writer , a salesperson and sometimes a counselor , I get the privilege of meeting people from all walks of life. Whats so refreshing is when you meet people from other, backgrounds, cultures, religions or race is when you learn something new that can help you in the future. But whats also refreshing is when you can help pass on some of that valuable knowledge to others. I always believed if you have the opportunity to help someone in need, that you should do whatever it takes to help or encourage them. Which brings me to the topic of today, Don't take it personal. I truly believe that the reason why a lot of us get ourselves in trouble or why we get so angry easily  is because sometimes we don't listen and then take the advice given personal. The things we should take personal we don't and the things we shouldn't take personal we do.Whats funny is when our fathers, mothers, friends, teachers, Pastors or siblings  try to help or give advice, we often think that they are only trying to tear us down. When in fact the only reason they give advice or try to help is out of love.

What made me realize this fact was after I was had a conversation with my son. I was explaining to him the reason why a man should do certain things for himself and why he shouldn't depend or expect others to help him. I was also explaining why he shouldn't have his pants hanging off of him, why he should go to school and why he should go to church on Sundays. Believe it or not,  he took our conversation personal and thought I was attacking his character. What he didn't realize then, but he does now is that I wasn't trying to offend him, nor was I trying to attack him. I was only giving him advice, because I been on the road that he has been on before. Also I didn't want him to make the same mistakes as I have and that I loved him. It wasn't effecting me, that his pants was hanging off and if he didn't go to school that really didn't bother me either. Because I already went to school and my life has already been established. After all like he said before, it is his life. I was only trying to enhance him and make him a better man. That is when I sat him down and said Son, when I see you I see greatness, you may not see it now but in time you will realize I was only trying help bring it out of you. I was only trying to protect you and keep you from making some serious mistakes that may hurt you for a lifetime. In time you will see that I am right, so don't take it personal because I care. If you happen to be reading this and someone is trying to give you a little advice or if they are giving you some constructive criticism. Don't take it to heart or personal because it's only whisper, thought and blessing from God.
May God continue to bless you,
Proverbs 13:10 Only by pride comes contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.

Proverbs 13:9 The light of the righteous shines brightly, but the lamp of the wicked is snuffed out.

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