Saturday, January 5, 2013

Gone Too Soon

If your family has never been touched by death, all I can say is, if you haven't felt it, then you wouldn't understand the pain that most of us go through. Why? Because death itself is so unpredictable and no one knows when someone will live or die. Loosing a mother, father, grandfather or grandmother is hard enough, but loosing a child is extremely hard to bare. The reason why it is, because a child's life was laid out in front of them and they haven't yet had the chance to experience or appreciate life. They wasn't blessed with enough time to make mistakes, to grow old, to have children of their own or to achieve their dreams. Some never have a chance to graduate elementary, middle , high school or even college. It gets harder for some parents who have raised their children to adult hood only to loose them at the ripe age of 18, 20, 21 and so on. To hear a mother or father scream why God, why did my baby have to go? Its very hard to take, what's harder to take is how some people can just kill or murder just for the hell of it. Having no respect for life or the people they hurt after committing these heinous crimes. The sad thing is, there are no words one can use to comfort the victim or victim's. How can one bring themselves to say(to the victim) after loosing a child or love one that its going to be okay? Death is so final, after they are gone, there is no turning back and their spirits are now in the hands of God.

That is why is so difficult learning that each day that passes by and millions of innocents lives are taken away. No one knows or can even understand why God allows our children to be killed, murdered or taken away. No one knows why he allows these criminals or murderers to destroy or wreak peoples lives. Only he with his perfect grand plan can understand his reasons or why he allows this to happen. That is why am encouraging each brother ,sister , mother , father, Pastor or Priest, today to embrace your love ones, hug your children, love each other and put your bitterness or hate behind you. I am also advising each of us to stop arguing, fussing or fighting with their children, family members or spouses, because its wasted energy. No one wants to live life with regrets, wishing that they had used that time or opportunity just to say that you love or forgive them.

This reminds me of something my mother used to always preach to me when she would say, Family is all we got! When the world is against you family, is all you can count on and we should always be together. My mother wanted us all to remain close, no matter what was happening in our own world or the world around us. After getting a text message early one morning from a friend of mine telling me, about hers sons death, my heart went out to her, because of her grief and I now can understand why. He was only 26, with 3 children (2 boys &1 girl) and his life was laid out before him. He was just learning how to be a responsible father and was ready to change his life for the better. He had great plans for his children, family and his mother. But just like so many, he was murdered, killed and then taken away too soon. Our babies, children and young adults, are being killed at an alarming rate and none of us no matter where we come from can afford to take this fact for granted. When our love ones dies, are killed or taken away from us, none of us can get them back. But what we all could do, while we mourn them, to is live and honor their memories, by becoming better people then become more active in our communities. We should all be mindful that the people we love today could be here today, then gone tomorrow and Gone To Soon.
Psalm 49:15 But God will redeem my life from the grave; he will surely take me to himself. Selah

Isaiah 25:8 he will swallow up death forever. The Sovereign LORD will wipe away the tears from all faces; he will remove the disgrace of his people from all the earth. The LORD has spoken.

Isaiah 26:19 But your dead will live; their bodies will rise. You who dwell in the dust, wake up and shout for joy. Your dew is like the dew of the morning; the earth will give birth to her dead.

This blog is dedicated to my friend, Sylvia Alexander and the millions of mothers or fathers worldwide. I can't begin to understand your pain and I will pray for you. I can only say that God, our Father In Heaven loves you and for what ever reason he allowed this to happen, know this, it was in his plan. Now you as a mother, grandmother and friend can seek him out for understanding. Love the people around you especially those, beautiful grandchildren and know that one day you all with be a blessing, for the glory of God.


  1. To be absent from the body is to be present with the lord, may God bless her and her family.

  2. Charles My prayers are with your friend.

  3. Thanks Charles,your spiritual words has been inspirational to me...yes my baby was taken too soon, I know that from the day we were born it was already written. Its so hard to say goodbye sooo soon, and it hurts sooo bad. But I know I love my baby and he loved me...he enjoyed his life and to the readers...enjoy everyday as if it was your last and love the people in your grasps..bc if someone could have told me that January 4th 2013 would have been my baby last day on this earth i wouldn't have believe get your lives in order and praise our father whom are in heaven for each and every breath that you take..hurt so bad, i do. Miss Sylvia Alexander. RIP son

  4. Powerful words Sylvia,
    I can't begin to understand your pain. Just over two years ago, I lost someone very dear and special too me, which was my grandmother. She will always be missed and I still feel this was today, out of all the people in the world, she was the only one that truly loved me. My grandmother always looked pass my imperfections and always thought of me as a good child or good person. Its because of her that I am this loving God fearing man that I am today. My only regrets is that I didn't get the chance to tell her how much she really meant to me or how much I loved her. But I let family, marriage and my own self pity get in the way. If I had to do it all over again, I would have spent more time with her. That is why this blog is so important to read, because if we allow our own, bitterness, stubbornness or if we let our family, friends or spouses get in the way. Then all we will be left with is regrets. My advice to anyone who may read this love the ones you should love while their is still breath in their bodies. Because they could be here today and gone tomorrow or too soon.
    Be blessed Sylvia and friends, Rest in peace Brandon and my God keep you always,