Saturday, December 22, 2012

From Trash To Treasure

Have you every been in a bad relationship or marriage? Did your ex-husband , ex-wife ,ex -boy friend or girl friend hurt you so bad that you are afraid of getting into another relationship or marriage? Are you scared of giving your heart to someone because of your past experiences? Have you every been treated so bad that you feel worthless or even unworthy of love or affection? Did you ex-husband, ex-wife leave you for another man or woman? Do you feel unwanted, unloved or sometimes feel like trash? Have you heard these very words from someone who you used to care and love you. ("I don't love anymore and you are not worth my time or effort"). Have you ever been judged, just because you happen to be to short, to tall, black or white, over weight, skinny or tall?Or have you been accused of being to smart or even too good to be true? If you have said yes to any of these questions, I just want you to know that you are not alone and that God loves you . I also want you to remember something that my mother told me as a child. She would always talk to me about why it was so important to have confidence in myself , to always remember that everything God created was beautiful and God made me that way I am.
 As I think back on my childhood I thank God for blessing me with a mother who loved me and a mother that was understanding enough to prepare me for the outside world. She would say to me that people in the outside world would not always view me the way she does. She would say Charles I love you and in my eyes you will always be a very handsome man. But one day you will meet a woman and fall in love. She first will love you and view you like I do, she will think that you are very handsome, smart and kind. But because of her unrealistic expectations of you, she will discover your flaws and find out that you are not perfect. Then her attitude will begin to change and that woman you fell in love with will not view you the same. Now in her eyes you are unworthy to be loved and now trash. You are unwanted and what ever good you have done is now unappreciated.
 After my mother finished with her sermon, I said," wow"!! Mom is this what I can expect when I start dating or even when I get married? Then I went on to say why put myself through all of this when I will only get my heart broken or better yet get used or abused?Then she smiled and said, because honey everyone needs to be loved and sometimes you have to go through the bad to get to the good. She went on to say suffering, heartache's, ups and downs are just a part of life, but you shouldn't get discouraged. Because one day you will meet someone who sees you just like I do and you will also meet someone who has the love of God in their hearts. She went on to explain God loves us all despite our flaws or even our short comings. He knows that we are all sinners and he loves us no matter what. In other peoples eyes you may be trash, but in Gods eyes you will always be a treasure.One day you will appreciate and thank God for going through all those bad and ungrateful women. Because having those bad experiences will make you a better man and it will also make you appreciate that good thing that God our Father says all men should find( A wife). In her eyes you will not be trash, you will be a treasure that she will praise God for as long as she lives. My mother was very wise and that is why I wanted to share this with the rest of the world. If you are hurting or feel unloved, do not be discouraged and do not give up on love. Because, God has that perfect man or woman out there for you and in their eyes you will never be trash and always a treasure. Always remember this someones trash is always someones else's blessing and treasure waiting to be found.
Have a blessed night,
1 John 2:1 My dear children, I write this to you so that you will not sin. But if anybody does sin, we have one who speaks to the Father in our defense--Jesus Christ, the Righteous One.


  1. Praise God, my brother in Christ! I really needed to read this! You are right, God made me the way I am and if the world can't appreciate me for who I am, then one day soon, I will be blessed with the desires of my heart!
    Thank you my brother, may God bless you and your family always..